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https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/talviyo-yoke-sweater I don’t need to knit a sweater this year, I really don’t. And yet … ‘tis lovely.

The autoimmune cheilitis is back, making my upper lip sore and chapped.

https://saltyworld.net/non-monogamy-isnt-a-free-pass/

School is continuing to be a bit rough, but if I can get all the homework done I need to do before spring break, I can maybe go back to Dallas the week I have off? We’ll see.

US political news, exciting only in the horrible way )
flamingsword: “star stuff” in front of an image of a nebula (Star Stuff)
Good things like this song are hard to find.

https://prometheus-music.bandcamp.com/album/my-favorite-sings-kathy-mar Track 15, the Word of God: song lyrics )
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Y’all, I might be gonna be so fucking boring this year. My life currently revolves around school, homework for school, trying to keep up with friends online, and trying to fit bits of knitting projects in between those bits of schoolwork and jobwork. I have not read or done the most basic personal development stuff since back to school. I want to do Shadow work! And finish What It Takes to Heal! doesn’t look like I’m getting any of that done. 😫 :weary:

Also: fuck you very much Daylight Savings. Ugh.
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I have not read anyone’s posts in at least a week, bc of the over-abundance of homework and stress. But I’m still here, and even though there were a couple times I thought I was going to cry this week (stress, PMS, other people’s thoughtlessness), I am hanging in there.
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The school I’m going to dumped more than 40 pages of homework on us and about twice that much reading. I am still doing homework and I started Friday night. People live too far apart from the school to have in-person study groups, too. I started a text chain and I’m one of two people who have used the FB group the school insists on us having … but if there’s gonna be a study group, I may have to lead it. Which is a bunch of spoons and lol, no. Not right now anyway.

I think I might be going to start doing homework every single day? As long as it keeps it from being this slog … though come to think of it, maybe it’s good that I have few distractions out here. 🤔 Y’know what? I am making the executive decision to be slightly grateful that I’m doing school out here where I’m not tempted away from homework by fun things to do and friends to see. It’s lonely and I miss my people, but I will see some of them soonish.
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I made it through orientation and didn’t die, but then today I immediately gave myself a headache doing homework. This is gonna be a balancing act …

I may need someone to poke me tomorrow to get on Zoom with the witchy peeps. Or maybe I just set louder than usual alarms?

Links!

Feb. 23rd, 2025 09:30 pm
flamingsword: LINKS! (LINKS!)
For my Gifted / Intellectual / Creative Black folks, a community: https://www.ourwildminds.com/about from their About page
Why Black Gifted Adults Specifically?

Being a gifted or twice-exceptional member of one or more of these groups can be inherently challenging as it flies in the face of expectations placed on many of these social groups. To exhibit intellectual giftedness as a Black woman, for example, is to elicit confusion, derision, disbelief, amusement, suspicion, pathologization, and even rapt fascination — all of them dehumanizing and disorienting.
I learned of this community from this talk on giftedness here, via the AuDHD Flourishing podcast.

https://www.pocket-lint.com/amazon-kindle-download-feature/ - If you need to use a USB to move stuff on or off your Kindle, do it in the next few days? They are enshittifying the service and dropping that feature.

https://cbsky.app/profile/swizzard.pizza/post/3littag5dl22i - if you need a weird crossover that might make you giggle.

https://www.tumblr.com/toothsalad/775242139675377664/free-bulk-covid-tests please order 300 Covid tests and give them out to poor folks? The US stockpile is getting kinda … possibly shitcanned? But reports vary on whether the regime is caving to public pressure.

https://www.theroot.com/a-list-of-companies-that-continue-to-support-dei-1851755249 Unlike the parent company for the cowards who own Humble Bundle, some places have realized that Diversity Equity and Inclusion are strengths and not dangerous vulnerabilities the way bigots like to listen to their feelings about.

Let’s all give up on the practical world and install hidden book case doors? On second thought, these are like $1k, nevermind.

Hatshepsut’s brother’s tomb was found!

Cut for YouTube link: Read more... )
flamingsword: The word THERAPY in front of a Paul Signac painting (Therapy)
So the headaches have been getting worse. Apparently. Read more... ) In other news I am Oscar the Grouch this morning, sending electronic missives from my garbage can. Hi.

So! Feelings: Read more... )
And finally:
• I love and am loved by so many good people who help restore my faith in humanity. 🫂💜🫂

It may not be much consolation considering the ongoing global meltdown, but I’m hanging onto y’all with my fingernails. We’re going to live through this. We’re going to survive out of spite, and joy, and resistance.
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I’m going to blog about the feels I have, because ex-husband Ghost’s best friend’s wife left him, and now Ghost is catching a clue that I could have been way shittier to him about this breakup. Read more... )
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Something that has been brewing in my brain for a while that I don’t think I’ve talked about yet is a new-to-me concept that I have needed my whole adult life and never had ‘til now. I forget when exactly, but I think it was December of last year (?) that I came across a Pinterest pin of the 7 Types of Rest:
• Physical Rest
• Mental Rest
• Social Rest
• Emotional Rest
• Sensory Rest
• Creative Rest
• Spiritual Rest

They’re fairly self-explanatory, I think? But the paradigm is unfamiliar. I am used to thinking of not spending energy on socializing, but hadn’t really considered it a form of recharging. I know that I like to keep my stimulation low sometimes, but hadn’t considered that those times happen after I’ve been in crowds or noisy places or grocery stores - places full of sensory information, in other words. To figure out which rests you and I need, let’s maybe list what types of rest we’re getting enough of - and by process of elimination, what we’re not getting. Most of this post is going to be me figuring out what I need and it will be behind a cut )
https://circlesquareoval.com/spiritual-self-care-activities/

https://brainwisemind.com/how-to-get-spiritual-rest/ -

The spiritual rest links I’ve found so far that aren’t poisoned by toxic evangelicalism.
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“Ted Cruz,” (but more like
Fled Cruz), peasants with pitchforks
Shout: “Eat a road flare!”

Rolled a 19

Feb. 6th, 2025 08:15 pm
flamingsword: DO ALL THE THINGS (ALL THE THINGS)
So my Thursday dice rolls, which I need to put on a different day starting next week, were 1:12 - yoga, 40:100 - “Elim”, and 19:20 - List Recent Accomplishments. So this is me doing the thing.

a tangent )

Annnyway! This last little while I have:
•knitted a bunch of little hexipuff-puffs to make a quilt out of. I have made about 30 of them in slightly more than a month.
• knitted a double knitting fractal scarf! Pics or it didn’t happen. It looks so cool and is currently wet-blocking in my bathroom.
• started looking up plants, and nurseries, and native plant societies both for here and for the part of WA where I hope to be living after summer 2026
• set up a time to talk to bestie R’s mom, who we’re going to be living with and taking care of, about what she’s going to want plant-wise and how she wants to do that
• got Valentines presents for Merlin and my Boston spouse,
• got some of my people tiny stickers and things for Yule
• gave myself a haircut
• learned lots of recipes and new ways to cook things I’m not used to
• kept up with my friends online
• got all my ducks in a row for starting school this month.

That’s been enough to keep me busy.
flamingsword: LINKS! (LINKS!)
It has been a minute since I’ve posted some links. Let’s do that. All of these links mention political fuckery that is ongoing, so if the context of what you can do about these political coercions doesn’t make it stress-neutral for your mental health, then maybe skip those links.

Weekly small tasks to prevent book censorship.

Open source alternatives to a lot of softwares and platforms, in case you’re thinking of switching off the folks who are scraping your data to feed to AI and sell to anyone who’ll pay for it.

How to freeze your credit score in case a historically massive amount of US financial data is stolen by people who have no security clearance. Just, for instance.

Other simple ways to fight back against the rising tides of authoritarianism. The most recent newsletter contains this call to action as an example: Read more... )


And finally: - I put the “omen” in “women” - cross stitch pattern. This made me giggle, so it gets shared, too.
flamingsword: Cat with megaphone says “FUCK THAT NOISE” (Fuck that noise)
Instead of being here in DW, I have been slowly closing down my Facebook account, downloading the pictures, messaging people with my contact info, deleting posts, unfriending my friends, putting the chairs on the tables and sweeping up the big internet cafe behind me as I go. I will have to maintain a tiny presence there to participate in a mandatory school thing, but I’m pulling as much of my selfhood off the least trustworthy parts of the internet as possible.

It pisses me off, you know?

Not just the enshittification, not just the selling our data to bad actors, not just, as Cat Valente says, the “stop talking to each other and start buying things” urging of the capitalists, but that thing that capitalism creates that gives rise to fascism - distrust. The less safe you can make people feel, the more they turn on each other. The more high-conflict you can make an argument, the less the people in it will trust each other, the more you can radicalize the people on both sides, the more easily manipulable you make the people who are arguing, and the less trustful you can make the arguers, the onlookers, everyone who has to hear about how vicious things are getting in social spaces. It eats away at social bonds by causing people to feel they have to mask who they are or risk having similar conflicts. People feel like they have to Gray Rock their whole lives, close up like a clam.

And then the less vulnerability and honesty people bring to the public square, the less people feel connected to each other, which reinforces the distrust. It’s a cycle of wackness, and I hate it.

So I’m going to be over here in my little corner of the internet, trying to protect others’ privacy while being honest and vulnerable with my own life. If bad stuff happens to me because of it, well. I guess bad stuff is going to happen. I will be tanking for the party, in my own limited way. I’m not going to take ridiculous risks, there’s not going to be a repeat of the White Rose’s scattering of pamphlets in a gymnasium (RIP Sophie Scholl). But I’m going to be here talking to people like they’re not incomprehensible murder monkeys, the way my traumatized hindbrain has been trained to think of people.

I love y’all. Be safe, and maybe meditate on trust once in a while?
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So: if you posted pics of that fuckwit Read more... )

In other news, I’m going to go back to reading comfort fic, bc that’s how my day is going.
flamingsword: LINKS! (LINKS!)
Holding on: - To The Censorious Ones by Anne Waldman poem of woman power that I hope takes hold, especially in white women learning to fight for WoC.

Goodbye, Horses by Q Lazarus. RIP, David Lynch.

Holding it in:
https://www.npr.org/2025/01/17/nx-s1-5264378/biden-era-national-archivist-constitution Biden, who tried to get the Equal Rights Amendment certified into the constitutional archives in his first year in the presidency, once again pushes his understanding that the ERA has been ratified and is the law of the land. (Even if it doesn’t work, it’s sucking a lot of oxygen out of Mango Mussolini’s inaugural whatever, which I find hilarious. Plus there are all kinds of political ramifications; stay tuned and I’ll update y’all when I see stuff about it.)

https://www.cnn.com/2025/01/17/politics/biden-commutes-sentences-non-violent-drug-offenses-crack-cocaine/index.html Biden can’t change the laws that overprosecute largely-Black populations of nonviolent drug users, but he can commute a bunch of federal sentences, which he did.

https://embrace-autism.com/raads-r/ - assessment for “sub-clinical” autism, I.e. folks who can mask well enough that it doesn’t show up as an obvious disability, but whose brain’s fundamentally work like ours do. You are part of this spectrum, too! You belong here!

https://projects.propublica.org/climate-migration/ Climate migration projections over the next half a century.

https://retrofilmvault.com/ - Public Doman Movies And Films: The Ultimate Archive

https://www.tumblr.com/ms-demeanor/772883965218586624/hi-youre-in-the-la-area-right-i-hope-you-and?source=share And someone knowledgeable weighing in on the Protonmail debate.

If you have cool stuff you think I should know, feel free to drop those here in comments.
flamingsword: a shadow demon child says, "YAY I'M HELPING!" (YAY! I'M HELPING!)
As some of you know, if you’ve been here a while, for stuff where I need variety to motivate me to stick with something, like doing self-care, I have one of those free dice rolling apps and a corresponding list of things to do to both take care of myself and stay engaged with it. So I want to try making a list of ten or twelve exercise things that I think would be fun sometimes but that might, I dunno, hurt my knees or something to do every day.

I have an alarm set on my phone telling me to roll dice Thursdays and Sundays. Yesterday was pot of coffee, [personal profile] son0fether, and Somatic Shaking. It was a good day. Also I have been knitting up a storm.

In case you need any inspiration to try this thing that works surprisingly well for my admittedly odd brain, here are my lists.

20-sided-dice list for self-care:Read more... )

D100 list for connecting with people: Read more... )

D12 list of exercise and movement:Read more... )

I hope that helps somebody!

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