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Things I like to talk about: stuff that I’m curious about or that is counterintuitive, therapy stuff including some ongoing part/Shadow/reclaiming work, earworms, kvetching about stuff I'm reading (or, rarely, writing), and occasionally raving about fic recs and links. Sometimes I write out my thoughts-naming meditation or something about my weird brand of secular paganism, but those are pretty rare at the moment.
Comments are welcome here, and I will try to reply unless you are probably trolling. As long as you apologize when you hurt someone then we're cool. If all you want to say is a heart/emoji, that's cool, too! If you need cuts with trigger warnings? Please let me know … unless you want me to trigger warn for parts of my identity like the word “queer”. Just. No. I like having company over and want you to feel safe here, but I have to feel safe here, too.
As someone whose body does not always work like it says on the label, I’m no longer putting processing/whining/complaining about that behind a cut. I saw a tumblr post a while back that said one reason abled people are so bad at interacting with disabled people is because we’re kept to the margins as much as possible. That folks don’t have to interact with us with the "I'm fine" mask off very often, so they don’t get enough practice to be good at it - and that is to everyone’s detriment. tumblr OP had a point!
Fandom stuff: I don’t write on AO3 much anymore, but! I'm currently into DC Batfamily crack, and I bookmark some fun and spicy things! A couple years ago Star Wars ate my brain, but I seem to be doing fine in its absence, so who needs brains, really? The fandoms I'm mostly not in anymore where you may have seen my comments include: The MCU, Leverage, The Witcher, The Good Place, Daredevil, Star Trek: AOS, Smallville, X-Men, Stargates SG1 and Atlantis, Teen Wolf, The Losers, and random comments on your musicals and 80's movies fics. (I will sadly no longer be reading Harry Potter or Good Omens fics, for terrible-people-can-suck-a-lemon reasons.)
If someone on DreamWidth OR AO3 is harassing you or doing you a microaggression, drop me a DM? As a white anti-racist ally, an antifascist, and a person who believes in the power of weaponized empathy, I need more practice having uncomfortable conversations with people who need to be gently informed what consequences their actions may be having for themselves and the people they are (hopefully unwittingly) hurting. Or! I can talk smack about the people upsetting you and write insulting haiku about them until you feel validated and can process the bad-feels. Whatever you need, I'm gonna try to be there for that. I take the bonds of community seriously.
FANWORKS POLICY: I do not give permission for my words or works to be fed into an LLM or AI training of any kind. Other than that caveat, if you want to podfic, remix, translate, make fanart, or in any way transform any of my fan works, you go right ahead! Link me!
I do SPAG and basic beta reading for fic under 10k in any of the above-approved fandoms, too. Just PM me.
Moar memes!
Apr. 11th, 2026 11:33 pmYou know what I haven’t seen in a minute? An ask meme! Y’all are interesting and I have things I want to know about you, so I propose a trade of information.
Comment to ask a question about any of the interests on my profile, and I will tell you about what it means to me.
https://flamingsword.dreamwidth.org/profile
Comment to ask a question about any of the interests on my profile, and I will tell you about what it means to me.
https://flamingsword.dreamwidth.org/profile
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Apr. 9th, 2026 12:08 pmUntil Batrick died, I was vaguely angry at most aspects of Texas government, and blisteringly irate at a few of them, but was not really thinking in terms of it being a direct threat to people I knew, or that my staying here would be considered a tacit endorsement for living in Texas, thus making me a threat to my friends - a thing which is Utterly. Unacceptable.
But their death really woke me up to the fact that the estimated 3 THOUSAND preventable deaths per year in Texas was not a flaw in the public health plans of those in power. It was a feature. A deliberate and eugenicist decision was made that me and my friends, through no fault of our own, should die, because we take up resources that could be used to give tax breaks to oil companies that pollute and warm our planet, weapons manufacturers that kill its populace, and data centers that are driving up prices for electricity and clean water. That Bat’s death was by design made me so … verklempt with rage, and fear for my friends, and guilt for my own complicity, and even gave me fear for myself. Maybe I had those feelings before and just didn’t know - alexithymia is a motherfucker like that.
My relationship with Ghost was already starting to get alienated and distant when Batrick died, and if divorce became likely, I would not be able to support myself to anything above the Medicaid “donut hole” coverage gap. So I was dealing with naming my feelings in my grief-processing protocols, and kept coming up with all this tangential shit about my marriage, my life circumstances, and my location that I wasn’t expecting to find, and most of it was … not great.
Texas was making me feel all these things and I could finally recognize all of those feelings that were in my body without my knowing it, and it was pretty shitty that in addition to my friend being dead, I had to have even more feelings about him being stochastically murdered by fascist health policies.
And dealing with the fear, the fact that I’m not a badass anymore, nor capable of financially protecting my friends, nor blameless in my choosing to stay and fight giving cover to making others like Bat feel safe enough to stay when he should have left … all of that required getting the hell out of Texas and rearranging my life to deal with those risks (which is an ongoing project, but that’s another entry).
But their death really woke me up to the fact that the estimated 3 THOUSAND preventable deaths per year in Texas was not a flaw in the public health plans of those in power. It was a feature. A deliberate and eugenicist decision was made that me and my friends, through no fault of our own, should die, because we take up resources that could be used to give tax breaks to oil companies that pollute and warm our planet, weapons manufacturers that kill its populace, and data centers that are driving up prices for electricity and clean water. That Bat’s death was by design made me so … verklempt with rage, and fear for my friends, and guilt for my own complicity, and even gave me fear for myself. Maybe I had those feelings before and just didn’t know - alexithymia is a motherfucker like that.
My relationship with Ghost was already starting to get alienated and distant when Batrick died, and if divorce became likely, I would not be able to support myself to anything above the Medicaid “donut hole” coverage gap. So I was dealing with naming my feelings in my grief-processing protocols, and kept coming up with all this tangential shit about my marriage, my life circumstances, and my location that I wasn’t expecting to find, and most of it was … not great.
Texas was making me feel all these things and I could finally recognize all of those feelings that were in my body without my knowing it, and it was pretty shitty that in addition to my friend being dead, I had to have even more feelings about him being stochastically murdered by fascist health policies.
And dealing with the fear, the fact that I’m not a badass anymore, nor capable of financially protecting my friends, nor blameless in my choosing to stay and fight giving cover to making others like Bat feel safe enough to stay when he should have left … all of that required getting the hell out of Texas and rearranging my life to deal with those risks (which is an ongoing project, but that’s another entry).
Hark! A meme!
Apr. 6th, 2026 08:49 pmThe 5 Spells Meme
You are a magician, and you have immense power, but it can only be channeled into FIVE SPELLS. You can cast the spells on yourself or as many other people as you like, an infinite number of times. Your casting range is as big as you decide it is, but no larger than the orbit of the Earth around the Sun. No building Dyson spheres, sorry. I didn't make the rules. So: what are your 5 priorities? You can take as much time as you like to think it over, and it took me about 16 hours of turning things over in my mind.
My answers are:
1. Cause Disbelief - All within the affected area can suddenly spot the flaws that the caster can see in an idea, religion, or other form of dogma. Imagine if the whole planet suddenly spotted the massive flaws in capitalism, and instead of thinking wack stuff like "That's the exception that proves the rule" and dismissing the cognitive dissonance with a thought-terminating cliche, they thought "Hey, this has more problems than I was thinking it had. Maybe this isn't such a good idea to base our whole economy on." The world would be radically different within 5 years, and I wouldn't even need a guillotine to do it.
2. Heal Person - heals a person to maximum hit points. Cancer? LOL, NO. I don't think so.
3. Heal Trauma - heals a mind of the terrible things that happened or the terrible absences of connection that traumatize us and break our ability to form narratives and feel like real people. That next 5 years is going to look way different, and the 20 after it will be a golden age of growth if we can get past our aversion and psychic pain associated with growth, to which end:
4. Create Outrun Bullshit Drug - For 1D4 hours, a person taking this non-addictive magical drug will experience mild euphoria and easier physical pleasure, but their mind will work faster instead of slower - so fast that they can spot the bullshit that they've been trained to think but that they don't really want to believe. I want it to wear off fairly quickly so that people are incentivized to do the work on themselves that makes them better people. It might slowly change our culture towards more easy acceptance of the self, less hiding and holding shame, and less feeling trapped and frozen inside the wicked mess problem of being a person in a world that has been manipulated into being an unwinnable game.
5. Teleport - teleports self or others any distance within the Earth's orbit. This one is just for fun, because I want to take my besties out for Indian food. In like, Mumbai.
Credit for this meme goes to![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
ot_atma. A blank copy of the meme will be in the comments.
You are a magician, and you have immense power, but it can only be channeled into FIVE SPELLS. You can cast the spells on yourself or as many other people as you like, an infinite number of times. Your casting range is as big as you decide it is, but no larger than the orbit of the Earth around the Sun. No building Dyson spheres, sorry. I didn't make the rules. So: what are your 5 priorities? You can take as much time as you like to think it over, and it took me about 16 hours of turning things over in my mind.
My answers are:
1. Cause Disbelief - All within the affected area can suddenly spot the flaws that the caster can see in an idea, religion, or other form of dogma. Imagine if the whole planet suddenly spotted the massive flaws in capitalism, and instead of thinking wack stuff like "That's the exception that proves the rule" and dismissing the cognitive dissonance with a thought-terminating cliche, they thought "Hey, this has more problems than I was thinking it had. Maybe this isn't such a good idea to base our whole economy on." The world would be radically different within 5 years, and I wouldn't even need a guillotine to do it.
2. Heal Person - heals a person to maximum hit points. Cancer? LOL, NO. I don't think so.
3. Heal Trauma - heals a mind of the terrible things that happened or the terrible absences of connection that traumatize us and break our ability to form narratives and feel like real people. That next 5 years is going to look way different, and the 20 after it will be a golden age of growth if we can get past our aversion and psychic pain associated with growth, to which end:
4. Create Outrun Bullshit Drug - For 1D4 hours, a person taking this non-addictive magical drug will experience mild euphoria and easier physical pleasure, but their mind will work faster instead of slower - so fast that they can spot the bullshit that they've been trained to think but that they don't really want to believe. I want it to wear off fairly quickly so that people are incentivized to do the work on themselves that makes them better people. It might slowly change our culture towards more easy acceptance of the self, less hiding and holding shame, and less feeling trapped and frozen inside the wicked mess problem of being a person in a world that has been manipulated into being an unwinnable game.
5. Teleport - teleports self or others any distance within the Earth's orbit. This one is just for fun, because I want to take my besties out for Indian food. In like, Mumbai.
Credit for this meme goes to
ot_atma. A blank copy of the meme will be in the comments.Hey, y'all. It has been a minute and I have been busy running around like the dude with the lint roller at a black velvet fashion show. I am now:
• working at the business side of the school I was at, having finally gotten my license to work in North Carolina.
• knitting another Melt The ICE hat, this one in a deeper burgundy.
• Doing the math on how to move money around to pay for the interstate move.
• having second, third, and fourth thoughts about some of the stuff I was planning to do with the move, for money and airport security reasons.
• generally overthinking a lot of stuff and being an anxious ball of stress, especially today, now that I don't feel well.
• probably dealing with something intestinal that hit right after I got off a call this morning and kind of wrenched my day away from being productive. Boo. Hiss.
• not going to bother with most of the links I wanted to make the second links post into. :\
• finally doing the shadow work that I have been wanting to do for like a couple of years now. (which may have some stuff to do with why I am anxious, bc too much processing).
https://transresilience.org/issues/fda-registry/read
https://ndncollective.org/land-back/
https://www.ted.com/talks/adam_galinsky_how_to_speak_up_for_yourself
https://www.sciencealert.com/huge-study-reveals-2-vaccines-that-appear-to-reduce-dementia-risk#
https://embrace-autism.com/executive-skills-questionnaire-revised/
https://www.ted.com/podcasts/how-to-be-a-better-human/set-boundaries-and-find-peace-w-nedra-glover-tawwab-transcript
Meow. I feel puny and badly-tempered and I can't even responsibly drink about it. wtf.
Still, I haven't literally murdered anyone about it? So that's good. Gonna pat myself on the back about that.
• working at the business side of the school I was at, having finally gotten my license to work in North Carolina.
• knitting another Melt The ICE hat, this one in a deeper burgundy.
• Doing the math on how to move money around to pay for the interstate move.
• having second, third, and fourth thoughts about some of the stuff I was planning to do with the move, for money and airport security reasons.
• generally overthinking a lot of stuff and being an anxious ball of stress, especially today, now that I don't feel well.
• probably dealing with something intestinal that hit right after I got off a call this morning and kind of wrenched my day away from being productive. Boo. Hiss.
• not going to bother with most of the links I wanted to make the second links post into. :\
• finally doing the shadow work that I have been wanting to do for like a couple of years now. (which may have some stuff to do with why I am anxious, bc too much processing).
https://transresilience.org/issues/fda-registry/read
https://ndncollective.org/land-back/
https://www.ted.com/talks/adam_galinsky_how_to_speak_up_for_yourself
https://www.sciencealert.com/huge-study-reveals-2-vaccines-that-appear-to-reduce-dementia-risk#
https://embrace-autism.com/executive-skills-questionnaire-revised/
https://www.ted.com/podcasts/how-to-be-a-better-human/set-boundaries-and-find-peace-w-nedra-glover-tawwab-transcript
Meow. I feel puny and badly-tempered and I can't even responsibly drink about it. wtf.
Still, I haven't literally murdered anyone about it? So that's good. Gonna pat myself on the back about that.
Links post part 1
Mar. 23rd, 2026 02:52 pmMusic: Lofi Girl x The Sims - Cozy Music to Feel Ooh Be Gah on Bandcamp.
Art: Accexhibition - accessible art, and the art of accessibility.
Mental Health: Emotional Neglect: Healing From The Hidden Trauma Of What Didn't Happen - Heidi Priebe on Youtube - for those of us who worked through our trauma but still feel like something is not right in our psyche, or who never had traumatic things happen but are still a pile of neurotic behaviours.
Mental Health: Atsede Scarseth AuDHD Therapist - POV: feeling better makes you feel guilty about your privilege on TikTok.
Health: Cognitive shuffling: The micro-dreaming game that helps you sleep, because I know some of y'all have trouble falling asleep, and it's time to give that busy-mind something to do that is not ruminate on every mistake you ever made. Sleep better, y'all.
Health: DASH heart-health diet adherents have a 40% lower incidence of cognitive decline. (!!that's amazing!!)
Health: Officials ‘missed 99% of data’ before ending Covid vaccine recommendation, memos reveal. US based Covid vaccine guidance for children and pregnant people on ideology instead of evidence, critics say.
Disability Justice: Access Intimacy, Interdependence and Disability Justice
Neurodivergence: Neurodivergent Insights Glossary of ND mental health terms and neurodivergent meditation styles for folks for whom "clear your mind" is a failure from the word go. *raises own hand*
Political comic: The Gospel of Supply Side Jesus
Political activism: Stand Up For Science: Protect NSF from Political Appointees - "Complete this form to send a message to your senators urging them to oppose Jim O’Neill’s confirmation as NSF Director."
Political Activism: Open comment period - Ethylene Oxide (breast cancer causative agent) to be ruled not an air pollutant, please tell the government what you think of this proposed rule.
Art: Accexhibition - accessible art, and the art of accessibility.
Mental Health: Emotional Neglect: Healing From The Hidden Trauma Of What Didn't Happen - Heidi Priebe on Youtube - for those of us who worked through our trauma but still feel like something is not right in our psyche, or who never had traumatic things happen but are still a pile of neurotic behaviours.
Mental Health: Atsede Scarseth AuDHD Therapist - POV: feeling better makes you feel guilty about your privilege on TikTok.
Health: Cognitive shuffling: The micro-dreaming game that helps you sleep, because I know some of y'all have trouble falling asleep, and it's time to give that busy-mind something to do that is not ruminate on every mistake you ever made. Sleep better, y'all.
Health: DASH heart-health diet adherents have a 40% lower incidence of cognitive decline. (!!that's amazing!!)
Health: Officials ‘missed 99% of data’ before ending Covid vaccine recommendation, memos reveal. US based Covid vaccine guidance for children and pregnant people on ideology instead of evidence, critics say.
Disability Justice: Access Intimacy, Interdependence and Disability Justice
Access intimacy is that elusive, hard to describe feeling when someone else “gets” your access needs. The kind of eerie comfort that your disabled self feels with someone on a purely access level. Sometimes it can happen with complete strangers, disabled or not, or sometimes it can be built over years. It could also be the way your body relaxes and opens up with someone when all your access needs are being met. It is not dependent on someone having a political understanding of disability, ableism or access.
Neurodivergence: Neurodivergent Insights Glossary of ND mental health terms and neurodivergent meditation styles for folks for whom "clear your mind" is a failure from the word go. *raises own hand*
Political comic: The Gospel of Supply Side Jesus
Political activism: Stand Up For Science: Protect NSF from Political Appointees - "Complete this form to send a message to your senators urging them to oppose Jim O’Neill’s confirmation as NSF Director."
Political Activism: Open comment period - Ethylene Oxide (breast cancer causative agent) to be ruled not an air pollutant, please tell the government what you think of this proposed rule.
Building Neurodivergent Community
Mar. 15th, 2026 06:58 pmI have been learning more stuff this last year and change about how I have been managing my Discord group - and apparently I DO have social instincts! They just are for operation in neurodivergent-majority environments. So it’s time to put this stuff into words, so that I can start explicitly encouraging people’s community-oriented behaviors of: appreciation for differences; tolerance for mistakes without lacking accountability; negotiation for better treatment between individuals of differing flavors; repair of relationships when things go wrong; gentle separations without acrimonious community-breaking when repair is not possible.
And I learned this just in time for everyone to start fleeing Discord! But I’m going to take the lessons I have developed this knowledge into toward wherever we end up, and ask other people about their good ideas. So:
( long post is long )
Me:*gives myself a gold star for doing a hard thing*
And I learned this just in time for everyone to start fleeing Discord! But I’m going to take the lessons I have developed this knowledge into toward wherever we end up, and ask other people about their good ideas. So:
( long post is long )
Me:*gives myself a gold star for doing a hard thing*
Boundaries
Mar. 10th, 2026 01:15 pmSpeaking to several people over the past 30 years, but nobody likely to stumble across this journal:
Make a list of your boundaries. ( Read more... )
Make a list of your boundaries. ( Read more... )
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Mar. 4th, 2026 03:01 pmI heard the terrible news about minoanmiss last night, and I want to punch entropy in its face about it. But entropy doesn’t have a face, so we’re all kinda screwed. My heart goes out to her wonderful loved ones, and to the neighbors who her life had touched for the better. I hope she gets to donate her organs to others to live on, especially as doing so will hopefully piss off her parents (who richly deserve such) one last time.
I have been orbitally bombarding the ulcer with famotidine, Omeprazole, and trying to let go of stress once an hour. It seems to be doing some good? And I found some perfume samples on clearance from the December holidays at CVS, so I am also scent stimming intermittently.
I have a tiny, mild headache right now, so I’m studying for the jurisprudence exam and getting ready to take the test and do taxes tomorrow.
minoanmiss last night, and I want to punch entropy in its face about it. But entropy doesn’t have a face, so we’re all kinda screwed. My heart goes out to her wonderful loved ones, and to the neighbors who her life had touched for the better. I hope she gets to donate her organs to others to live on, especially as doing so will hopefully piss off her parents (who richly deserve such) one last time. I have been orbitally bombarding the ulcer with famotidine, Omeprazole, and trying to let go of stress once an hour. It seems to be doing some good? And I found some perfume samples on clearance from the December holidays at CVS, so I am also scent stimming intermittently.
I have a tiny, mild headache right now, so I’m studying for the jurisprudence exam and getting ready to take the test and do taxes tomorrow.
Are headache noonwraiths real?
Mar. 2nd, 2026 04:34 pmCurrently, I have what is quite possibly a migraine? My brain feels like my cognition is normal but pain level is bad, light is more stabby than usual, sound is nauseating. Also since I’ve been having so many headaches, lately, I have been taking too many NSAIDs and have apparently given myself another stomach ulcer. So in all I’m doing great. /s 😅😩😣
I’m nearly done with the clinical volunteer hours for school, I’ll be done with those hopefully by next Saturday. On Friday I passed the national massage exam, the MBLEx, so now I just need to get the legislative exam taken care of before my paperwork is together for getting licensed in this state. And I would be studying for legislative test right now … if I didn’t have such an awful headache.
I just took the last of the Ubrelvy and I’m about to go take an anti-emetic bc that is feeling very necessary all of a sudden. This morning I started the two weeks of Omeprazole/stomach acid reducer pills that will help heal the ulcer (eventually). I just have to eat a fair amount of bread between now and the hypothetical day when my stomach will be healed up.
Wish me strength in the fight against the headache spirits, I guess. And for the ulcer to go the fuck away.
I’m nearly done with the clinical volunteer hours for school, I’ll be done with those hopefully by next Saturday. On Friday I passed the national massage exam, the MBLEx, so now I just need to get the legislative exam taken care of before my paperwork is together for getting licensed in this state. And I would be studying for legislative test right now … if I didn’t have such an awful headache.
I just took the last of the Ubrelvy and I’m about to go take an anti-emetic bc that is feeling very necessary all of a sudden. This morning I started the two weeks of Omeprazole/stomach acid reducer pills that will help heal the ulcer (eventually). I just have to eat a fair amount of bread between now and the hypothetical day when my stomach will be healed up.
Wish me strength in the fight against the headache spirits, I guess. And for the ulcer to go the fuck away.
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Feb. 23rd, 2026 04:44 pmI take the MBLEx on Friday, but it would be so much easier to study if I didn’t have a headache …
Today has kinda sucked. Yesterday, instead of giving me two massages, a break, and then two massages, student clinic put my last three hours back to back. I went over budget on spoons and am sore, tired, and a general mess today. Also it’s cold again which adds half a point on the ten scale of my pain, so today was a 5, even before my head started hurting and I had to pop two aspirin and a cup of caffeinated tea. So my sleep tonight will be messed up, so I need to put a sleeping pill in my meds so I get real sleep as much as possible. I got shit to do tomorrow.
But despite pain etc. I got my physical, and I got blood drawn, and I called a friend, and everything else has been … sitting in a dim quiet room. I don't have enough of a brain to _knit_ right now … ugh. Hope your day is going better than mine.
Today has kinda sucked. Yesterday, instead of giving me two massages, a break, and then two massages, student clinic put my last three hours back to back. I went over budget on spoons and am sore, tired, and a general mess today. Also it’s cold again which adds half a point on the ten scale of my pain, so today was a 5, even before my head started hurting and I had to pop two aspirin and a cup of caffeinated tea. So my sleep tonight will be messed up, so I need to put a sleeping pill in my meds so I get real sleep as much as possible. I got shit to do tomorrow.
But despite pain etc. I got my physical, and I got blood drawn, and I called a friend, and everything else has been … sitting in a dim quiet room. I don't have enough of a brain to _knit_ right now … ugh. Hope your day is going better than mine.
A poll on love in friendships
Feb. 16th, 2026 02:29 pmPoll #34231 Philia: friendship-love
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 17
Do you love your friends?
All of your friends?
In your understanding, do MOST people love their friends?
that education meme
Feb. 14th, 2026 01:38 pmWith the caveat that I am a neuroqueer autistic person, I have Thoughts and Opinions on public school education in the 80's and 90's.
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Stuff for various new-to-DW friends
Feb. 14th, 2026 09:38 amHow to find people & let people find you:
From any of the back-end pages, the search bar in the upper right side can take you to a list of people and communities with that keyword in their interests, sorted by how recently they updated their journal. For example: https://www.dreamwidth.org/interests?int=disability+justice
To update your journal's interests to let people find you more easily, update your interests on the Edit Profile page AND BE SURE TO PRESS SAVE when you're done. I have screwed that up so many times, lol.
How to make your journal pretty
To customize your journal layout and colors, go to Select Journal Style and then Customize Journal Style tabs on the left side of the page. If you want custom colors, there's a tab for that
Activism on DW
I follow:
https://communityactionusa.dreamwidth.org/profile or I can type the @ symbol and a name or comm title like so-
![[community profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/community.png){kind=small}
communityactionusahttps://thisfinecrew.dreamwidth.org/profile
thisfinecrewhttps://transmediaclub.dreamwidth.org/profile
transmediaclubSome of the non-community people I follow often share cool links to articles, news, calls to action, etc. I don't want to make anyone feel singled out, left out, or like I only follow them for activism purposes, so you'll have to scroll through folks' journals yourself, I'm afraid. :T
errata:
crashmargulies has an excellent intro-to-DreamWidth post over here --> https://crashmargulies.dreamwidth.org/3636.htmlAnd of course most Frequently Asked Questions are on the FAQ page --> https://www.dreamwidth.org/support/faq
Meme from cmcmck - blank edition
Feb. 12th, 2026 11:52 am1 what's your favourite kitchen appliance?
2 do you have a collection of anything?
3 what's the best job you've ever had?
4 what's the worst job you've ever had?
5 what's your favourite piece of furniture and where did you get it?
6 what's your go-to recipe when you want to make something that requires minimal effort?
7 are you married or do you intend to get married?
8 do you have kids? do you want them?
9 are you on good terms with your parents?
10 do you have siblings? do you hang out with them?
11 do you vote?
12 what's the biggest purchase you've ever made?
13 what are your hobbies?
14 what's a hobby you'd like to get into?
15 have you collected anything by accident?
16 how long have you known your oldest friend?
17 are you a member of any clubs or associations?
18 have you ever changed fields in your career or education?
19 how many wisdom teeth do you have and have you had any removed?
20 what's your favourite beverage?
21 do you have any living grandparents?
22 do you have nieces/nephews/godchildren/other kids in your life that aren't yours?
23 what's the coolest place you've visited?
24 what's your most recent degree and has it been useful to you?
25 would you rather own a dishwasher or a washing machine if you could only have one or the other?
26 do you make a list before going to the grocery store or just wing it?
27 what's your favourite household chore?
28 what chore do you hate the most?
29 do you have houseplants and how are you at keeping them alive?
30 what's your living arrangement? (who do you live with, in what kind of building, do you own or rent or other?
2 do you have a collection of anything?
3 what's the best job you've ever had?
4 what's the worst job you've ever had?
5 what's your favourite piece of furniture and where did you get it?
6 what's your go-to recipe when you want to make something that requires minimal effort?
7 are you married or do you intend to get married?
8 do you have kids? do you want them?
9 are you on good terms with your parents?
10 do you have siblings? do you hang out with them?
11 do you vote?
12 what's the biggest purchase you've ever made?
13 what are your hobbies?
14 what's a hobby you'd like to get into?
15 have you collected anything by accident?
16 how long have you known your oldest friend?
17 are you a member of any clubs or associations?
18 have you ever changed fields in your career or education?
19 how many wisdom teeth do you have and have you had any removed?
20 what's your favourite beverage?
21 do you have any living grandparents?
22 do you have nieces/nephews/godchildren/other kids in your life that aren't yours?
23 what's the coolest place you've visited?
24 what's your most recent degree and has it been useful to you?
25 would you rather own a dishwasher or a washing machine if you could only have one or the other?
26 do you make a list before going to the grocery store or just wing it?
27 what's your favourite household chore?
28 what chore do you hate the most?
29 do you have houseplants and how are you at keeping them alive?
30 what's your living arrangement? (who do you live with, in what kind of building, do you own or rent or other?
Snowflake #14 - Batfamily Crack
Feb. 11th, 2026 02:09 pmChallenge #14
In your own space, create a promo and/or rec list for someone new to a fandom. Leave a comment in this post saying you did it and include a link to your post if you feel comfortable doing so.
I think I did a Star Wars one a while back, so now maybe it is time for #Batfamily Crack to get its own post.
In first place we have Jason Todd POV crack for GRATE JUSTICE: The Right Substitution is Key by AddictedApple
“The Red Hood has been good for Gotham,” Robin continued. “Crime in Park Row decreased by sixty one percent almost as soon as you showed up, and that’s even taking into account all the crime you commit. Drug overdoses have decreased by twenty two percent in adults and seventy nine percent in minors. Homeless minors are ninety two percent less likely to—”
“Kid,” Jason interrupted. “Enough statistics. What the hell is this about?”
Robin slowly lowered the tablet with his powerpoint presentation and looked up at Red Hood.
“You care about Gotham,” Robin summarised. “Gotham needs Batman. Batman is missing and so is Nightwing. We need you to fill in for Batman.”
“You want me to cover Batman’s patrols?” Jason clarified.
“No,” Robin said. “I want you to be Batman.”
Jason bluescreened.
(Or: Batman and Nightwing mysteriously disappear before Red Hood has even started antagonising them, Robin is desperate, Gotham needs Batman, and Red Hood is Batman-Shaped.)
Second and third place are a tie by the same author: Are My Riddles a Joke to You?
& Gotham Knockoff by Raven_of_Hydecastle. Both are more Tim-Drake-Robin centric, feral little shit that he is, and will make you smile 'til your face hurts.
There is not nearly enough Signal fic out there, but The Robin Declaration by waterunderthebridge12 is the best I've read for getting his characterization right while still being funny.
Is now the time to say that I am not really into Dick Grayson's headspace, and most of the Batfam stuff that is from his POV is not really that funny? Moving right along!
Steph! For Stephanie Brown, my beloved flower who hits like a truck, precious goblin mode girl: Sophomores by LakeAwen. Steph&Jason family bonding! Found family and crack: two great tastes that taste great together!
[I will update with Cass-POV crackfic if there ever is any.]
In your own space, create a promo and/or rec list for someone new to a fandom. Leave a comment in this post saying you did it and include a link to your post if you feel comfortable doing so.
I think I did a Star Wars one a while back, so now maybe it is time for #Batfamily Crack to get its own post.
In first place we have Jason Todd POV crack for GRATE JUSTICE: The Right Substitution is Key by AddictedApple
“The Red Hood has been good for Gotham,” Robin continued. “Crime in Park Row decreased by sixty one percent almost as soon as you showed up, and that’s even taking into account all the crime you commit. Drug overdoses have decreased by twenty two percent in adults and seventy nine percent in minors. Homeless minors are ninety two percent less likely to—”
“Kid,” Jason interrupted. “Enough statistics. What the hell is this about?”
Robin slowly lowered the tablet with his powerpoint presentation and looked up at Red Hood.
“You care about Gotham,” Robin summarised. “Gotham needs Batman. Batman is missing and so is Nightwing. We need you to fill in for Batman.”
“You want me to cover Batman’s patrols?” Jason clarified.
“No,” Robin said. “I want you to be Batman.”
Jason bluescreened.
(Or: Batman and Nightwing mysteriously disappear before Red Hood has even started antagonising them, Robin is desperate, Gotham needs Batman, and Red Hood is Batman-Shaped.)
Second and third place are a tie by the same author: Are My Riddles a Joke to You?
& Gotham Knockoff by Raven_of_Hydecastle. Both are more Tim-Drake-Robin centric, feral little shit that he is, and will make you smile 'til your face hurts.
There is not nearly enough Signal fic out there, but The Robin Declaration by waterunderthebridge12 is the best I've read for getting his characterization right while still being funny.
Is now the time to say that I am not really into Dick Grayson's headspace, and most of the Batfam stuff that is from his POV is not really that funny? Moving right along!
Steph! For Stephanie Brown, my beloved flower who hits like a truck, precious goblin mode girl: Sophomores by LakeAwen. Steph&Jason family bonding! Found family and crack: two great tastes that taste great together!
[I will update with Cass-POV crackfic if there ever is any.]
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Feb. 9th, 2026 08:55 pmThe mood swings are gone now, and I have been trying to figure out finance stuff with getting my volunteer massage clinic hours done in time for getting work and saving up money for moving in June (dear gods I hope so anyway).
The house was invaded yesterday by other family members for Superb Owl Sunday. There was a lot of food making and then I retreated upstairs during the sportsball tournament, as I am not much for team sports. Today I went in for Jury duty, waited around for an hour and was dismissed.
Podcast on how to feel more loved, the answers to which are somewhat paradoxical, but do ring true to my experience of life - https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/how-to-feel-truly-loved-with-dr-sonja-lyubomirsky-and-dr-harry-reis - I should work on my listening skills again, though. It’s been a minute.
Some vaccines seem to have a protective effect on the brains of the vaccinated - https://www.sciencealert.com/huge-study-reveals-2-vaccines-that-appear-to-reduce-dementia-risk#
The Access Is Praxis series of disability Justice writings and resources - https://moonglades.notion.site/access-is-praxis-50fa0311f50c45689b60567bddbff253
The house was invaded yesterday by other family members for Superb Owl Sunday. There was a lot of food making and then I retreated upstairs during the sportsball tournament, as I am not much for team sports. Today I went in for Jury duty, waited around for an hour and was dismissed.
Podcast on how to feel more loved, the answers to which are somewhat paradoxical, but do ring true to my experience of life - https://www.pushkin.fm/podcasts/the-happiness-lab-with-dr-laurie-santos/how-to-feel-truly-loved-with-dr-sonja-lyubomirsky-and-dr-harry-reis - I should work on my listening skills again, though. It’s been a minute.
Some vaccines seem to have a protective effect on the brains of the vaccinated - https://www.sciencealert.com/huge-study-reveals-2-vaccines-that-appear-to-reduce-dementia-risk#
The Access Is Praxis series of disability Justice writings and resources - https://moonglades.notion.site/access-is-praxis-50fa0311f50c45689b60567bddbff253
Recipes and stuff
Jan. 31st, 2026 02:38 pmIf you know anyone opening a restaurant or bulk ordering their food staples : https://www.webstaurantstore.com/
Recipe I made this afternoon, bc Mom wanted to make a sourdough starter last week so we did: https://www.pantrymama.com/best-banana-sourdough-muffins/ I guesstimated amounts bc we don’t have a kitchen scale, and they came out slightly sweet but Mom and Stepdad love them, so yay!
We’re currently making jambalaya out of leftovers and I just finished the swatch for making the Melt The ICE protest hat for charity. I’m not sure who it will get given to once it’s done, but I’m making one. https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/melt-the-ice-hat
Recipe I made this afternoon, bc Mom wanted to make a sourdough starter last week so we did: https://www.pantrymama.com/best-banana-sourdough-muffins/ I guesstimated amounts bc we don’t have a kitchen scale, and they came out slightly sweet but Mom and Stepdad love them, so yay!
We’re currently making jambalaya out of leftovers and I just finished the swatch for making the Melt The ICE protest hat for charity. I’m not sure who it will get given to once it’s done, but I’m making one. https://www.ravelry.com/patterns/library/melt-the-ice-hat
Links collated by others:
Jan. 27th, 2026 12:58 pm( 19 Anti-ICE protest links )
Tumblr user daysanddangerousbits:
If you're in Maine or Philly or wherever the fuck Vance claimed DHS is going next, I BEG you to look at the rapid response and mutual aid networks and how they've been built in Portland, Chicago, and the Twin Cities, and start building your own version NOW.
Download signal if you haven't already. Pick a resistance pseudonym. Make a proton email that has no indicators to your real name. Start buying and printing whistles and whistle zines.
Organize your school patrols and foot patrols NOW. Talk to your community and your mercados and your Hmong and Somali grocery stores, ask them what support they need. Get "ICE are not welcome here" signage for businesses and homes. Familiarize yourself with the difference between an administrative warrant and a judicial warrant.
Learn how to take down a SALUTE report. PRACTICE salute reports. Learn, memorize, and embody radio etiquette for rapid response work.
Pick your lane: rapid response or mutual aid-- you can't do both, because rapid response often puts you in direct contact with ICE. They've been taking down plate numbers and leading responders back to their own homes here in the Twin Cities.
Remember that being under siege is a marathon, not a race. ( Explicit talk of dehumanizing ICE tactics )
Tumblr user kawaiiabetic:
Hey, Angeleno here to add: look for or start mutual aid groups that buy out your vendors, jardineros, tradespeople, helping support the most vulnerable members of your community from making the choice to stay home and safe or provide for family. We’re still doing this here and it helps.
“ICE NOT WELCOME” signs are great for solidarity and breaking morale, but please make and help pass out signs stating a home or business is private property. Make sure your business has an area explicitly for employees only. What we’ve seen in the last week makes all this seem like sticking a post-it on a viper and none of us know where we’re headed now, but it’s easy to do and could make a difference. It’s made a difference here.
Stay safe and take care of each other 🫡
Tumblr user daysanddangerousbits:
If you're in Maine or Philly or wherever the fuck Vance claimed DHS is going next, I BEG you to look at the rapid response and mutual aid networks and how they've been built in Portland, Chicago, and the Twin Cities, and start building your own version NOW.
Download signal if you haven't already. Pick a resistance pseudonym. Make a proton email that has no indicators to your real name. Start buying and printing whistles and whistle zines.
Organize your school patrols and foot patrols NOW. Talk to your community and your mercados and your Hmong and Somali grocery stores, ask them what support they need. Get "ICE are not welcome here" signage for businesses and homes. Familiarize yourself with the difference between an administrative warrant and a judicial warrant.
Learn how to take down a SALUTE report. PRACTICE salute reports. Learn, memorize, and embody radio etiquette for rapid response work.
Pick your lane: rapid response or mutual aid-- you can't do both, because rapid response often puts you in direct contact with ICE. They've been taking down plate numbers and leading responders back to their own homes here in the Twin Cities.
Remember that being under siege is a marathon, not a race. ( Explicit talk of dehumanizing ICE tactics )
Tumblr user kawaiiabetic:
Hey, Angeleno here to add: look for or start mutual aid groups that buy out your vendors, jardineros, tradespeople, helping support the most vulnerable members of your community from making the choice to stay home and safe or provide for family. We’re still doing this here and it helps.
“ICE NOT WELCOME” signs are great for solidarity and breaking morale, but please make and help pass out signs stating a home or business is private property. Make sure your business has an area explicitly for employees only. What we’ve seen in the last week makes all this seem like sticking a post-it on a viper and none of us know where we’re headed now, but it’s easy to do and could make a difference. It’s made a difference here.
Stay safe and take care of each other 🫡
PUBLIC SERVICE ANNOUNCEMENT- Shoveling Snow In Icy Conditions Raises Heart Attack Risk
Things I’m reading/thinking about today:
https://truthout.org/articles/equal-employment-opportunity-commission-rescinds-workplace-harassment-guidance/
https://eathealthy365.com/rich-smoky-cocoa-powder-chili/
https://novelhand.com/restorative-and-transformative-justice/
https://parentingadhdandautism.com/2025/05/313-build-resilience-and-joy-with-awe-and-wonder/
Things I’m reading/thinking about today:
https://truthout.org/articles/equal-employment-opportunity-commission-rescinds-workplace-harassment-guidance/
https://eathealthy365.com/rich-smoky-cocoa-powder-chili/
https://novelhand.com/restorative-and-transformative-justice/
https://parentingadhdandautism.com/2025/05/313-build-resilience-and-joy-with-awe-and-wonder/
Snowflakes 12 and 13
Jan. 26th, 2026 05:47 pmThis is the bare bones of a post bc I’m not feeling up to much today.
Challenge #12
Make an appreciation post to those who enhance your fandom life. Appreciate them in bullet points, prose, poetry, a moodboard, a song... whatever moves you!
Queen - “You’re My Best Friend”
Pentatonix - “I Just Called To Say I Love You”
*offers hugs and gf cupcakes*
Challenge #13
TALK ABOUT A COMMUNITY SPACE YOU LIKE. It doesn’t need to be your favorite, or the one where you spend the most time (although it certainly can be). Maybe it’s even one that you’ve barely visited. But talk about that space and how it helps support fannish community.
Is the #Batfamily Crack tag on tumblr a community? I mean we riff off one another enough to possibly qualify?
Challenge #12
Make an appreciation post to those who enhance your fandom life. Appreciate them in bullet points, prose, poetry, a moodboard, a song... whatever moves you!
Queen - “You’re My Best Friend”
Pentatonix - “I Just Called To Say I Love You”
*offers hugs and gf cupcakes*
Challenge #13
TALK ABOUT A COMMUNITY SPACE YOU LIKE. It doesn’t need to be your favorite, or the one where you spend the most time (although it certainly can be). Maybe it’s even one that you’ve barely visited. But talk about that space and how it helps support fannish community.
Is the #Batfamily Crack tag on tumblr a community? I mean we riff off one another enough to possibly qualify?
