Life stuff

[flamingsword]

• My genetic screening came back clear for all the cancer-causing mutations they know to test for. I will still be doing the anti-cancer/Eat The Rainbow/anti-microplastics stuff that I know how to do, but it is still a weight lifted.

• I got enough homework done despite the Terrible Brain Weasels of PDA and executive dysfunction to feel comfortable traveling to texas with my mom and stepdad. So I’m in DFW and hella fucking tired right now.

• Stepdad is a lot more irritable than he used to be, is following other cars too closely and then braking really hard to not h get in wrecks, and is puzzled that other cars keep getting out of his lane to avoid him despite his … kinda driving like a crazy person. I need to talk to him about that, and I need to look up how to have the conversation where I say “you didn’t talk to your doctor about cognitive testing, and your faculties are noticeably not what they were. We need to do something about this sooner rather than later, bc once it’s bad enough that you notice it, it will be too late for the meds to help very much.” I want to do it, but I don’t know how yet. I need scripts. 😕

• I have the chance to get the Battoo this week, and am tentatively planning that for Wednesday if I can find a way to see nyyki this week even though she’s kind of a ways away and I have no car.

• I have high hopes to see a bunch of people Thursday, Friday, and Saturday - and get a bunch more hugs, which I desperately need.

Comments

[sabotabby]

Yay no cancer gene!

[flamingsword]

Woot! Party time! 💃🕺👯‍♂️

[otter]

I wish I had a script for you. Both my dad and step-dad are 86 and my dad has voluntarily stopped driving when it's dark or snowing or raining for the most part.

Honestly, I think what you wrote above is a good script for that conversation. How he takes it is up to him, but your approach is reasonable and factual. If you want more ideas, maybe the AARP website would have suggestions? So many elders need to give up driving as their faculties deteriorate.

[flamingsword]

Ooh! Good thought! Or maybe one of the Area Agencies on Aging, (if those have not been defunded yet, the fuckers).

-Heidi

[sabethea]

*hug*

So glad about the genetic screening.

Good luck with the conversation. As someone likely tobe on the other side of it, it’s something that one doesn’t want to hear but needs to know. I’d definitely rather be told than have people keep it from me because they didn’t know how to bring it up. Though I am more used to being ill, I guess. If he’s usually been healthy it may be more complex to explain it’s not an insult, but a way of supporting him, but hopefully he should get it.

[flamingsword]

He has been healthy most of his life, and the stuff that isn’t healthy is like, reoccurring knee pain that he has to moderately rest for a week to make go away. It’s all been stuff he’s in control of … so maybe framing the Aging Brain Vitamins as something he’s in control of is the way to go? And that way he still feels empowered to keep deluding himself that his health is a reflection of who he is as a person. 😕 Which is not great, but I’ll take it if it works.

[sabethea]

I mean, to be fair, wouldn’t we all *like* to be in control of our health?! But yeah, he’s got much more chance of having some control over dementia the earlier he sees a doctor about it, so it’s definitely a selling point. Also, putting it that way can make you imply that you’re not saying that there’s anything *terribly* wrong, just that you want to nip anything in the bud before problems can arise, type thing?

Let’s hope health isn’t an indicator of person or I am awful and getting worse and worse as a person.

[flamingsword]

I know a few perfectly terrible let-them-eat-cake type rich people who are the picture of health despite things like cocaine use and binge drinking and various forms of not taking care of themselves. The Just World Fallacy makes them think that something must be wrong with the rest of us to be affected by what their bodies shrug off. But that’s motivated reasoning, bc they can’t handle thinking that maybe they don’t deserve to receive special treatment.

Meow. I’m impatiently doing homework waiting for it to be time to go see friends.

[minoanmiss]

Hooray! and all good luck.

[flamingsword]

So far so good! Thanks!

[numb3r_5ev3n]

I might be able to do something, despite everything. How long are you in town?

[flamingsword]

Until Sunday night. I tried to ping your fb, but they are not the best for notifications. Feel free to text me there or via phone?

-Heidi