Batrick

[flamingsword]

So my friend Bat just died; that’s a thing that happened. And everything that I want to say sounds fucking terse and liable to be taken wrong in a million ways, so I don’t know what to say.

It sucks. It hurts. I wish this country would stop killing my people. I was going back over to his place this weekend to help him pack to move to Denton. And now I’m still going over there to pack, to help his roommates and estranged dad not have to get rid of his stuff by themselves.

I am not okay right now, and I’m going to choose to be over-functional and industrious about that. And that may look to a lot of people like not caring, but fuck, Batrick. Somebody’s gotta.

I’m going to go drink water before I cry any more, because I can already feel the dehydration headache coming on.

And yeah, Bat’s memory IS a blessing. I was so happy to know him and to get to love him. And I don’t really miss people very often but I am going to keep remembering that he’s gone when I want to tag him on something. And it’s going to be like getting gut-punched all over again. Fucking hell.

Comments

[sabotabby]

Oh shit. I am so so srry.

[flamingsword]

🫂🫂🫂

[princessofgeeks]

I am so sorry.

[flamingsword]

🫂🫂🫂

[ironymaiden]

My deepest sympathy. Be kind to yourself; I found myself surprisingly exhausted and brain fogged in your position (like, falling asleep for hours after doing estate stuff)

[flamingsword]

Thankfully, I am not the only friend who is used to Bat’s family being failsauce, so we are all pitching in and brainstorming and splitting tasks up by skill set. Yay for that at least.

[sabethea]

Oh love. I am so sorry.

*lays down a stock of hugs for you for you to pick up when you need one, there are gentle ones, and tight hard ones, long ones, rocking ones… all the hugs*

[flamingsword]

🫂🫂🫂

I am eating chocolate and drinking coffee and taking my over the counter stuff that makes the antidepressants work better. I am taking care of myself, I promise.

[noyeahtotally]

wishing you and his loved ones a surfeit of care and support right now. ❤︎

[flamingsword]

♥ Thank you.

[tuzemi]

This is so awful, I'm so sorry for your friend, and you. ☹️

You are being very kind in offering your industriousness. I hope you have folks fiercely supporting you too, when you're ready for that in a bit. 🫂

[flamingsword]

I already have folks lining up to unpack and process and grieve with, yes. They’re ready before I am, even!

[lokifan]

Oh I'm so, so sorry. That's awful.

And being industrious and going to help pack is a WONDERFUL gift - taking care of that sort of death admin is incredibly hard. That's showing an enormous amount of caring. And I hope you can all take care of each other and that it helps.

Sending all the sympathy and love.

[flamingsword]

Thank you.

[motorharp]

I'm so incredibly sorry to hear that. My deepest sympathies to you.

[flamingsword]

Thank you.