Messy feelings about stuff

[flamingsword]

Meow. Time to drop a bomb, I guess? Ghost’s and my marriage may not be going to hit its 13th anniversary this May. I’m not sure what’s going on, but he thinks we will be able to change over from an apparently-though-not-to-me strained romantic relationship to a healthy living-together friendship. I am not sure I believe him about this.

I think we will be able to finish out most of our lease together, though I am not sure how rapidly or even whether we will evolve to the point of not wanting to live together. I am having the occasional moment of Big Feelings but I am mostly not feeling much yet. It will get worse later, but I have received multiple offers of emotional support, so my community are providing care for me. I kind of worry about Ghost since he has all of two people as his community and a four person family, none of whom have experienced his particular situation. But then, I guess I should probably detach from those worries somewhat if we’re going to be just friends. Meow.

You can ask questions, although I may not know answers yet. 🫂🫂🫂

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[flamingsword]

You have all of mine, too. This is my second really long-term relationship, so I’m not exactly practiced at breakups. I’m about to go ask some polyamorous folks in other online spaces about their breakups with people who tried to make themselves be polyamorous but didn’t manage it.

Good luck to both of us, and may we land on our feet like cats. 🐈🐈‍⬛🐈

[princessofgeeks]

Thank you; wishing you all the best.