bodies, ugh

[flamingsword]

Dislocated my collarbone last night while picking up a cutting board that literally weighs like 3 pounds. I am moithered to death with my body today, and will be sitting at my desk with my arm propped up today doing research instead of knitting a sweater, like I wanted to be doing. Yes, I have taken all of the anti-inflammatories, and I took a muscle relaxer yesterday to keep from stiffening up so much that I hurt myself worse in my sleep. Today is a lot better, but still tender and a bit grindy? Someone plz tell me I don't have arthritis in my AC joint.

Things I am researching:

ways other people plan for uncertainty - I have Black Swan by Nassim Taleb around here somewhere and need to read that. I want to do essays on how expectation reversal and playing with probability work, but I'm not sure what else the Sea of Doubt posts need.

how other autistic people heal trauma, how that differs from NT folks - this is largely going to be an amateur grounded research study based on self-reporting, and possibly a lot of interviewing people with carefully non-leading questions. Which should be easy since I have no pet theories to lead toward, and am basically in the dark on all fronts. But I notice that ND folks have a lot more trauma than NT folks, and I don't know if our brains are more susceptible to trauma, or if the stress of a society that low-key hates us is a traumatic stress of itself that opens the way for more trauma. That one may have to be a neuropsychiatry question instead of something that I armchair psychology at. Either way, if there are tactics that work better for our brains, I want to know personally, and I want to spread that knowledge around. We need all the help we can fuckin' get.

how geeks build community - & if that is really as different from how non-geeks do it as I think it is. Questions of intensity versus consistency in interaction. One of the geek social fallacies (extended edition) might be that we assume people are reliable narrators of their lives, and we think that a sudden burst of intense get-to-know-you talking is a substitute for consistent getting to know someone by witnessing them in difficult situations and different contexts. But it's not, and we have to be really careful about thinking that reciprocal information means the capacity for meaningful trust, which can only be sustainably built over time.

ongoing research on keeping sexual sparks alive in long term relationships

ongoing research into Autism and ADHD task switching tactics

planning for the eventual homebuying research which is not happening yet

If anyone has any places to start with that research, or questions about it that would help me narrow down the research fields, comments and DMs are always welcome.

Comments

Book Question

[dewline]

This Black Swan?

Re: Book Question

[flamingsword]

Yes. It was recommended to me as presenting useful ways to think about probability and improbable things.

[princessofgeeks]

Good heavens! Will your collarbone go back into place on its own? I didn't even know it was possible to dislocate it.

[flamingsword]

I have EDS, so it popped out, and then back into place almost in the same motion. Now it's all over but the swelling and the repair of the hyper-extended connective tissue.

[princessofgeeks]

Hoping for continued improvement!

[flamingsword]

It is all better now but the mild ache when I move too quickly. Thank you for your concern.

💜

[numb3r_5ev3n]

Dislocated my collarbone last night while picking up a cutting board that literally weighs like 3 pounds. I am moithered to death with my body today, and will be sitting at my desk with my arm propped up today doing research instead of knitting a sweater, like I wanted to be doing. Yes, I have taken all of the anti-inflammatories, and I took a muscle relaxer yesterday to keep from stiffening up so much that I hurt myself worse in my sleep. Today is a lot better, but still tender and a bit grindy? Someone plz tell me I don't have arthritis in my AC joint.

D: that sucks, I'm so sorry that happened!

Also: Roommate is really looking into coping strategies for neurodivergence (and finding out exactly what kind of neurodivergence they are, aside from issues that they already know stem from previous head trauma.) I said I'd ask around for advice.

[flamingsword]

Does Roomie watch How To ADHD on Youtube? https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC-nPM1_kSZf91ZGkcgy_95Q I steal a lot of ideas from her, as well as from her friend Aspie World https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wZMCMCr3CUs

[sabotabby]

Oh yikes. I hope you can fix your collarbone or someone can fix it for you?

[flamingsword]

It popped immediately back in, it just takes a while for the strained connective tissue to quit hurting and swelling. It's mostly gone now, I just want to baby it for another 12 hours or so to make sure.

Thanks, though.

[ex_flameandsong751]

I'm sorry re: the collarbone. Ow.

If you want to use me as a test subject for questions re: the intersection of ND and trauma my e-mail address is stickied on my DW (locked). (I don't allow PMs anymore because following some stuff that happened I low-key panic every time I get a PM.)

[flamingsword]

Thanks! When I am done putting language together for these questions and have them in reasonable Academic Freddish, I will email you.

And the anti-inflammatories have mostly done their jobs, so tonight I am mostly back to baseline pain.

[tuzemi]

Oh no! I hope it heals quickly for you.

On the task switching: long before HRT kicked my ADHD up many notches, I had no idea I was ADHD. But in college 15+ years ago I stumbled upon a trick that completely worked: I would do homework for class A while in lecture for class B, and vice versa. At the time I thought I just couldn't handle the lecture format, and wanted to save time so that I could see my spouse when I got home in the evenings. But now I realize I was pairing, and that I have been unconsciously doing that forever. Like I can't just cook something, I have to cook AND do the dishes, cook AND straighten up things, etc.

I’m am almost all better now

[flamingsword]

That’s a good tactic for me! I do it, too! (Crafting while listening to things, etc.) I think my husband, Ghost, is able to do that too, since he will code while listening to podcasts or watching movies. But we can bring this into a more experimental realm, I think.

Hmm. This calls for SCIENCE!!