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[flamingsword]

Things I like to talk about: stuff that I’m curious about or that is counterintuitive, therapy stuff, earworms, kvetching about stuff I'm reading (or, rarely, writing), and occasionally raving about fic recs and links. Sometimes I write out my thoughts-naming meditation or something about my weird brand of secular paganism, but those are pretty rare at the moment.

Comments are welcome here, and I will try to reply unless you are probably trolling. As long as you apologize when you hurt someone then we're cool. If all you want to say is a heart/emoji, that's cool, too! If you need cuts with trigger warnings? Please let me know … unless you want me to trigger warn for parts of my identity like the word “queer”. Just. No. I like having company over and want you to feel safe here, but I have to feel safe here, too.

As someone whose body does not always work like it says on the label, I’m no longer putting processing/whining/complaining about that behind a cut. I saw a tumblr post the a while back that said one reason abled people are so bad at interacting with disabled people is because we’re kept to the margins as much as possible. That folks don’t have to interact with us very often, so they don’t get enough practice to be good at it - and that is to everyone’s detriment.

Fandom stuff: I don’t write on AO3 much anymore, but! I'm currently into DC Batfamily crack, and I bookmark some fun and spicy things! A couple years ago Star Wars ate my brain, but I seem to be doing fine in its absence, so who needs brains, really? The fandoms I'm mostly not in anymore where you may have seen my comments include: The MCU, Leverage, The Witcher, The Good Place, Daredevil, Star Trek: AOS, Smallville, X-Men, Stargates SG1 and Atlantis, Teen Wolf, The Losers, and random comments on your musicals and 80's movies fics. (I will sadly no longer be reading Harry Potter or Good Omens fics, for terrible-people-can-suck-a-lemon reasons.)

If someone on DreamWidth OR AO3 is harassing you or doing you a microaggression, drop me a DM? As a white anti-racist ally, an antifascist, and a person who believes in the power of weaponized empathy, I need more practice having uncomfortable conversations with people who need to be gently informed what consequences their actions may be having for themselves and the people they are (hopefully unwittingly) hurting. Or! I can talk smack about the people upsetting you and write insulting haiku about them until you feel validated and can process the bad-feels. Whatever you need, I'm gonna try to be there for that. I take the bonds of community seriously.

FANWORKS POLICY: I do not give permission for my words or works to be fed into an LLM or AI training of any kind. Other than that caveat, if you want to podfic, remix, translate, make fanart, or in any way transform any of my fan works, you go right ahead! Link me!

I do SPAG and basic beta reading, too. Just PM me.

Comments

[norsellie]

♥

[flamingsword]

🎆💜🎆

[we_are_spc]

Yaaasss, Can we add, plz?

You seem cool and interesting, so there. :p <3

-T~

[flamingsword]

You may follow me! Add away. Do you want friend access?

[we_are_spc]

Sure, if you don't mind. We usually leave that up to the person because we know some people like to look first; add later.

Thank you! :)

-Trausio~

[spikedluv]

Hi! Dropping in from Snowflake. I scrolled back a little bit in your journal and saw that you spent $50 on yarn. As someone who just learned how to knit a few years ago (and is still very much a beginner) I am already aware of the compulsion to buy all the yarn even if you have no idea what you're going to do with it. *g*

Ah, 80s movies. Those were the days. *g* I still have a soft spot for Some Kind of Wonderful and Mary Stuart Masterson.

[flamingsword]

I lived through the 80’s and all I got was these stupid crushes on Jon Cryer, Jennifer Connolly, Kyle McLachlan, and Ally Sheedy. Mary Stuart Masterson wasn’t half bad, either.

[ex_flameandsong751]

Oh hi! Hi hi hi! I gave access and subscribed when I saw you pop up on my subscribers list.

[flamingsword]

Thank you! I think your brain is interesting and have subscribed to your newsletter. If you are ever interested in doing the cognitive behavioral therapy-along (when I start posting those again), just let me know and I will stick you in my access list.

[ex_flameandsong751]

I am actually VERY interested in that, I am working through the CBT Handbook at home (very slowly), I haven't posted about it on my journal but anyway I am here to support therapeutic endeavors, as someone in recovery etc.

[flamingsword]

I am doing the CBT Toolbox, much modified to be less sexist/ableist/cisnormative etc.. I also have a few DBT things in the therapy tag and some stuff like the feelings wheel and how to do a daily check-in with your feelings for people who are bad with recognizing feelings. Because alexithymia is a thing for so many of us.

Congrats on being in recovery! Yay for having made it this far.

[ex_flameandsong751]

Modifying the Toolbox is a good and necessary thing.

I will check the tags because boy howdy I am not great with recognizing my feelings sometimes. Better than I was, but still needs work.

And thank you!

[flamingsword]

This is the post with the daily check-in stuff and the feelings wheel. https://flamingsword.dreamwidth.org/291825.html

[ex_flameandsong751]

Thank you!

[flamingsword]

No problem!

[lilalanor]

Yay Witcher & Star Wars! (I just went ‘Witcher Star Wars’ so help me /here from Snowflake)

[flamingsword]

If you stuck Geralt in the Star Wars universe, would people think he was a Sith? The yellow eyes, the constant scowling, the Signs and their similarity to the Force - I can kind of see it as an AU. Jaskier would love being a holo-pop star, though. Billions of fans, and a galaxy full of new and interesting people to follow around and annoy.

Sticking absolutely anyone from SW into The Witcher would also be a fish out of water story, but would either be hilarious, tragic, or both. Probably both.

[ihavenoarms]

Hello adding you you can see my sticky post take care

[flamingsword]

Hi hi!

[mizerable]

Giving you an add, please feel free to add back if you'd like. I'm an autistic black queer man and I like a lot of fandoms. Would like friends access if that's cool to check out the therapy resources.

[flamingsword]

👍 You’re good to go.

[dame_grise]

Hello! I saw we had some interests in common and thought I might follow you. I'm trying to break away from the evil that is Facebook and post here more often.

If you want to follow, yay! If you want to give access, also yay!

[flamingsword]

I’m noticing that I got this comment and either did not get a notification or did and immediately forgot about it bc my brain does that sometimes. Sorry! I have followed you and given you access.

[prisca]

I enjoyed reading your info post and can't wait for you doing other Snowflake challenges. Have fun :)

[flamingsword]

Thanks!

[dandelionblizzard]

Entertaining intro post! I'm totally nabbing your line about beta reading. Let the people come to me. LOL

yay!

[flamingsword]

Beta reading and cheer-reading are important to fandom! Without the assurance that your fic doesn't suck the way the brain-weasels tell you it does, there would be so many fewer posted fics, and that would be sad.