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Dec. 29th, 2024 11:06 am9. What was this year’s most memorable experience?
The three most memorable experiences were Bat dying, C ghosting/friend-dumping me, and Ghost not talking to me for three days. Despite those being the memorable experiences, it’s still been a year full of connection and quiet joys. It was not terrible even if a lot of things ended that I was attached to.
I don’t think that “memorable” equates to “most important”, especially not for people who have trauma. Our brains are catastrophizing bastards that preferentially remember the bad stuff that might come back to threaten us in the future. That doesn’t make it correct in its priorities.
The three most memorable experiences were Bat dying, C ghosting/friend-dumping me, and Ghost not talking to me for three days. Despite those being the memorable experiences, it’s still been a year full of connection and quiet joys. It was not terrible even if a lot of things ended that I was attached to.
I don’t think that “memorable” equates to “most important”, especially not for people who have trauma. Our brains are catastrophizing bastards that preferentially remember the bad stuff that might come back to threaten us in the future. That doesn’t make it correct in its priorities.