hanging my tomorrows on the bones of yesterday

I think I'm going to make some icons for this:



Comment if you have requests for icons, or things you think a friend of yours would like. I want to do something, but I get decision paralysis pretty badly sometimes.

I'm about to go cut a friend's hair and go visit my mom in the hospital. Wish us all luck? I have never cut hair in the style my friend wants it, and mom is recovering from multiple surgeries and needs all the internet well wishes she can get.

So I like small amounts of alcohol, because it is a cheap, effective muscle relaxant. But I have spent a few months trying to like beer, and it is mostly not working. I can drink Shiner Ruby Redbird, which is a grapefruit shandy, because the bitterness tastes okay when there's citrus. But mostly I think I am giving up on this experiment. It's been two months. I tried.

While this was going on, I made two Ravenclaw scarves, one Hufflepuff, one Slytherin, one Griffindor, and several hats for this yuletide season. And I may have slightly pissed off my wrists and given myself carpal tunnel symptoms again. I liked listening to podcasts and knitting. It was very soothing, so I overdid it, and now I'm not sure what I'm going to do to fill that gap of comfort and middle aged lifestyle.

Suggestions?

So, CisHet White Dude of my acquaintance, you do not want to keep going through the process of debating with me, even though we are making progress at getting our definitions and miscommunication worked out. That's fine, I guess. You do you.

But I have noticed a few things about this and previous arguments, and I need to say them, even if I cannot say them to you directly. Like: not every suggestion to change a behavior is a demand for compliance. You are not required to do anything; we are offering upgrades but we're not gonna be all Microsoft about it. You can keep using a behavior that most people use, even if it causes problems.

Like: not every criticism of a common behavior that creates a problem means that you are a monster unworthy of respect if you use that behavior. If someone on the internet notices that behavior A causes problem X and suggests upgrading to behavior B, I am not criticizing you by posting a link to that content. If you feel personally attacked every time someone posts something that could refer to a behavior that you do, you are going to feel attacked a lot for no good reason and probably will overreact to people who honestly respect you and are trying to make our world better. You know, that world we both have to live in?

And just because you're used to being in the unmarked category does not mean that there don't need to be words for things. Yeah, it's a made up word and it sounds stupid because you're not used to it. But I have heard you use slang before, so you don't actually have a problem with it until you think that it is somehow about criticizing you, personally. Things need names, especially if we are going to talk sensibly about where behaviors come from.

Six thousand years ago we lived in small tribal villages of a hundred to a hundred and fifty people where everyone knew everyone else. Now we have cities whose populations number in the millions. The same behaviors, the same culture is not going to work optimally for both situations. Stuff needs to change, and if you don't want to take on any of the hard work of progress, that's on you, but complaining about how other people go about producing a just and equitable society when you are doing none of the work is counterproductive.

Also: if you know that I post socially progressive content and you don't want to read it why are you following me on facebook?!

Since everyone has rough patches and everyone likes getting mail from friends, it is time to combine these tendencies into a balanced whole. Our friends love us and it stands to reason we should make it as easy as possible to make each other feel better.

Things that I like that can be easily sent in the mail: secondhand books with notes in the margins, ridiculously brightly colored socks that will fit a women's size 11 (including toe socks), raw walnuts, small rocks and coins from interesting places, leftover beads and old buttons and broken jewelry, and any gluten-free candy that is from other countries.

If you do not have my physical address, or it is more than 2 years old and no longer the one I am living at, then comment me or email, and I will fix that part. If I do not have yours, I will ask.


Note To Self - I need to get the wacom tablet out and make a Brain Weasels icon for insomnia.

From the pages of my day-planner, ( these are things that I have done this year. )

A link to Crazy Meds: the one-stop information portal for the mentally interesting.

Zooborns: Your daily dose of AWWW!

OH last night: "I'm not sure if faith can move mountains, but I've seen what it can do to skyscrapers." Ouch?

Went to The Church's 15th anniversary celebration this evening, fun was had by all, even meh-post-headachey me! And now, to bed!

Friday before last I was introduced to tequila by jenndoesntblog, and since then when I say that I like the taste of it and look forward to buying some eventually, everyone seems to think that's ominous. Would anyone care to explain why? Answers have been vague . . .

NEW PLAN: WE ALL CHANGE OUR LAST NAME TO 'WHO' AND SOME OF US START GETTING DOCTORATES!

:D?