And another thing!
Jun. 20th, 2024 10:34 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
flamingswordRe: my last post. I don’t know what it feels like experientially to take up too much space in someone’s brain, bc that’s a them experience - and if they don’t show it, then I can’t know it. All I can do is check in and ask.
Everyone is going to have different boundaries and capacities for relating to me and to each other, and that has to be okay. Which means that the onus is a lot on the folks who have the problem to say so, right? But people perceive weird power dynamics that I don’t (autism, yay!) or have traumas that i can’t know about or that manifest in ways that mine do not. So again, all I can do is ask the question, and work on being receptive to people’s answers, even if they are framed in ways that push my buttons, since they may have built up resentment or something like that, from keeping quiet about their needs.
Everyone is going to have different boundaries and capacities for relating to me and to each other, and that has to be okay. Which means that the onus is a lot on the folks who have the problem to say so, right? But people perceive weird power dynamics that I don’t (autism, yay!) or have traumas that i can’t know about or that manifest in ways that mine do not. So again, all I can do is ask the question, and work on being receptive to people’s answers, even if they are framed in ways that push my buttons, since they may have built up resentment or something like that, from keeping quiet about their needs.