Needs - Boundaries- Shadow

[flamingsword]

Make a list of your emotional needs. Which ones are being met? Which ones are not being sufficiently met?

Need to feel safe in relationships, 90%
Need to feel my feelings and grow, 75%
Need to have a balance of positive, neutral, and negative feelings and experiences 85%
Need for variety and play 35%
Need to feel in community 75%
Need to feel trust and be trusted 60%

Are your boundaries supporting your needs? Are they aligning with your values?

My boundaries are still pretty haphazard, come to think of it. I am okay enough with my life to not need to do anything to them? But maybe I should anyway. Maybe it would help Ghost and other people I know to talk out and have the boundaries so that they can feel more secure and feel like it is okay for them to have boundaries, too. Lead by example/be the change etc..

What traits in your Shadow would help you advocate for your needs and your boundaries?

Whew. Asking the hard questions. Um.

My ability to not care what anyone thinks of me, including the people whose affection I want, would help here, to make it easier to say my boundaries out loud. My ability to be pointless, creative, loud and annoying would help with meeting my need for play and variety and fun. And I do need more of that. So I guess I get to work on that stuff first?

Comments

[panisdead]

I appreciate that you make these posts public, because they're super interesting to read and I find them useful as examples.

[flamingsword]

Some of them are public and some are not, but everything I can talk about publicly without getting anyone who isn’t me doxxed, I tend to talk about.