Some links to cool stuff and a query

[flamingsword]

NASA page on the next asteroid show that you’re likely to see if you don’t live in frakking Dallas with all the ground lights. There’s technically one peaking next week but the full moon will make it way harder to see the tiny streaks of light. Good luck, and stay warm out there! Remember to take your lawn chairs for proper viewing posture, if you have such.

A bonny wee highland calf! So fuzzy!

The Gottman Institute founders are on a podcast! Can someone remind me to come back to this in January when I start working on interpersonal and marriage stuff again?

"Messiness Is Not A Moral Failing" on the Ten Percent Happier podcast. I had stopped thinking of myself as lazy when I was pulling the ableism out of my head, but this made me tilt my head to the side and say “huh” out loud a few times because of how profound the shift in thinking is. A+! Recommended.

There are probably cracks in the universe; why can’t we find them? Neat/weird physics things ftw.

So: you have made it down to the bottom of the post. Thank you! I am going to do some work next week on typing out the entries in the Friend Book into privacy lock in case I ever lose they day planner they are in the back of, and I was wondering: what kind of important information does your brain keep about people on your inner dossiers? What do you get mixed up and have to write down? I want to be a great friend if I can, because we only get one wild and precious life, and I want my friends to not have me be my worst, most oblivious self for that. I don’t want to get people mixed up, want to treat the people I’m closest to as they deserve to be treated. How do you do that? How does your brain hold people close?

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[ex_flameandsong751]

I keep a list of birthdays because I am absolutely shit with numbers but I honestly don't have anything as complicated as a dossier, even though I should since I have some memory problems. I try to make mental notes of important stuff [So-and-So is vegetarian, So-and-So has X Y and Z triggers] but -old man wheeze- maybe I should make an actual note now that I'm getting older.

[flamingsword]

I have found that having a thing to refer to makes remembering easier. Once I see the formatting of the page, I remember what’s on there even without reading it. And feel free to steal my template.

“What are your special interests and things you love to talk about?

What are your favorite kinds of drinks and snacks for hanging out?

Do you have any allergies/sensory sensitivities/triggers/pet peeves other bad stuff I should know about?

How do I comfort you when something big goes wrong/you are overwhelmed/you are having a panic attack?

What are your favorite types of parties/get-togethers? How do I invite you to things you’ll like?

What kind of gifts do you like and am I allowed to make you things? How do I make you feel appreciated?

[ex_flameandsong751]

Thank you!

[flamingsword]

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=9xpv25ZCvvA

https://www.aclu.org/vote-your-values

https://www.science.org/content/blog-post/things-i-won-t-work-dioxygen-difluoride

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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gupUrQT_q-8 Blues played on BAGPIPES. And it’s AWESOME!

https://lifecoachestoolbox.com/FreeCoachingHealingTools/marelyejcmhmdlcbddahsac/Infographics/FightFlightFreeze-TraumaResponse-LifeCoachesToolbox.jpg only legible on desktop. Alternative responses to try to your triggers that aren’t fight flight freeze or fawn.

https://therapyforblackgirls.com/2022/10/12/session-279-the-power-of-shadow-work/

https://youtu.be/YnM4yw7vwK0 Rick James vs Falco - Der Superfreak Kommisar