Snowflake 8!

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Challenge #8
In your own space, celebrate a personal win from the past year: it can be a list of fanworks you're especially proud of, a gift of your time to the community, a quality or skill you cultivated in yourself, something you generally feel went well. Leave a comment in this post saying you did it. Include a link to your post if you feel comfortable doing so.

Things I won at this year:

I wrote a character fairly believably, even though her personality diverges from mine at most points? Yay for reading enough Darcy Lewis-centric fanfic to have a handle on how fandom portrays her.

I think I’m learning how to give up on stuff that is bad for me in my personal life? When my friend broke off our friendship, I did not immediately fight for getting back a friendship that was emotionally draining and slightly toxic on both sides. I recognized that we both have other, better friends and let go, and I am really proud of that.

I have blogged way more this year than last, even though it’s my own stuff and not therapy content. (Which admittedly I should get back to.)

I have still not gotten covid. A lot of that is luck, but some of it is also choosing to do almost all stuff online that I wanted to do in person. I’m so grateful to past me for being a paranoid little shit.

I hope you, too, are proud of yourselves, for making it through another hellish year. You survived! Thank you!



In other news, the waking up in the middle of the night insomnia is trying to come back. Welp! Time to figure out what my brain is doing now!

Comments

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Oh, for sure it'd be painful. No matter how toxic a relationship may be, there are still genuine feelings there! I can only hope having a stranger on the Internet tell you that however you feel about it—anger, resentment, elation, uncertainty, etc.—is totally, totally normal. You're allowed to miss her and be grateful she's no longer in your life. You're allowed to grieve a friendship however you wish to grieve it. Feel your feelings and validate them all, even the ones that feel ugly. ♥

And you never know—you two may come back together in the future, but need time apart to heal. I always believe that people come into your life for a reason (and stay because they're meant to) and leave for a reason, and the people who do return do so when they're meant to.