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Because of La Niña , it is going to be 84 degrees in a couple days here, at the END OF DECEMBER. I'm trying not to freak out, as that will do nothing productive.

Who wants a really good protest song? If you love it like I do, go thank sabotabby for her excellent musical taste.

Or maybe some gentle cottagecore vibes in classical music?

The book that I asked Mom for, for Yule is Organizing Solutions for People with ADHD. We'll see if I get anything like it, not that I'm fussed either way. I can afford my own stuff now that I have omfg $200 of yarn heading my way. I love my people, even the ones who don't give me money and gift certificates for yarn. Have I mentioned that knitting/crochet projects are how I'm not losing my shit right now? Yeah. Sanity: the gift that keeps on giving. I wish I could start a library of things for y'all so that we could just send each other helpful stuff that we aren't using, like bedside caddies and extra computer cord wrangling equipment. And yarn.

But I need to stop collecting more and more projects to do, as I am starting to get the too-many-tabs-open feeling continuously this week. Brains are weird.

Does anyone play Death Stranding? Is there any good fanart of it for sale? I want to get Ghost something nice for his birthday that he won't get for himself.

Also: a friend had a question - if you don't identify as neurodiverse, did you used to stand on chairs/sit upside down in chairs/sit on tables and counters/generally use furniture outside their standard uses when you were a kid? I don't honestly know whether that was a normal kid thing, but she implied that we just don't know any "normal" people. But is that statistically likely? I just don't know.

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I don’t have a dx either, but … I’ve been thinking about getting one? I can’t really do stimulant meds, because I’m a stroke risk due to the complicated medical shit, but I think it might make me feel validated to have it, even if it is just a scrap of paper that says this wack brain shit is not my fault.

I dunno. It’s a lot of money for emotional validation.

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I was fortunate enough to get evaluated when I was describing symptoms to a psychiatrist [I was at an outpatient clinic for depression/anxiety meds, which is what Medicaid was willing to pay for] and he started asking me about childhood stuff and he was like "you sound like a textbook case of inattentive ADD, let's take an evaluation quiz". I can't take stimulant meds either [I do self-medicate with caffeine] and I was already on disability so the dx was just one more thing in the list of "here's why this person can't function in a way that befits having a normal nine-to-five job" [some people with ADHD can, obviously, but] but it was, like you said, emotional validation. Suddenly a lot of stuff made SO MUCH more sense and all of the "stupid and lazy" comments I got from my mom and others, welp, that's executive dysfunction.

I mean, I think self-diagnosis is valid in this case - almost all AFAB people I know of a certain age who have it [and/or autism-spec] weren't diagnosed till adults if at all, it was absolutely underdiagnosed with Xer and millennial AFAB people in those days, and it's one of those "if it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck, walks like a duck" type things IMO - but if you really want the piece of paper it's very understandable and I hope you can find someone to dx without too much trouble or expense.

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