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[flamingsword]

There is a website where you can read / review and search for indie perfumes by note that I have been lurking on the last couple days. Can you tell?

Another housing thing, this time a class for homebuying.

The framework I want to use for the trauma-healing in neurodiversity interviews is grounded theory research methods. I will have to learn the math behind it during the later half of it, but for now I'm reading about how to ask open-ended questions about emotional subjects, to get direction without giving direction. I'm thinking of just keeping the questions as short as possible and letting people interpret them as they see fit, then just hoping it all comes tumbling out once people get on the subject.

And a random reminder: if you are writing a scene where someone (especially someone female) is being gatekept out of a fandom/sport/political/other male dominated space and you solve this by having her dunk on them with how much more she knows than they do about the subject, you are kind of missing the point. Yeah, it's satisfying to see people get their comeuppance, but it doesn't change the fact that it's still kinda validating the gatekeeping itself by implying that you should have to compete to "earn" your place in fandom or wherever. That's kind fucked up; let's not do that.

Let People Be Part Of Things 2K5Ever.

Comments

[tuzemi]

Very good point on the gatekeeping trope! (On mobile so I have to keep it short. 😟 )

[(Anonymous)]

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[sabotabby]

Re: Gatekeeping, I am obligated to share this very funny skit what my friend did (and I helped a bit).

[flamingsword]

😆😆😆 It does sound beautiful! I worked at a comic shop for over a year and never managed to achieve that level of being left alone.

[ex_flameandsong751]

My writing tends to be a sausage party because of my dysphoria but in the event I were to write a scene like this what would you propose as an alternative re: the female character's response?

[(Anonymous)]

There’s a few avenues. Return Awkwardness To Sender is probably my favorite tactic, where the rejected party says something along the lines of, “I was told this was the place to go if I wanted to get into this fandom/business/whatever, but I guess my source had the wrong information. This doesn’t seem very welcoming; it seems kind of awkward and unkind. Did all of you already have credentials before you got to access this space?” And then if/when other folks chime in to smooth over the thing being positioned as a socially awkward faux pas, they are unconsciously adopting a stance of protecting the space from the gatekeepers, instead of letting the gatekeepers protect the space from new people entering.

That reply was me, I constantly forget to sign in

[flamingsword]

Also, the Hang A Doorknob On It approach in sabotabby’s video is also a good way to do it, if your gatekeepers are being aggressive asshats enough to warrant a full call-out.

Re: That reply was me, I constantly forget to sign in

[ex_flameandsong751]

Thank you! Return Awkwardness To Sender would probably be the tactic I'd use if I were writing a scene like that - which I may not, but as a writer I try to be prepared for this stuff, because I've written stuff I never thought I would (also I'm probably on some kind of watch list with my search history for things I've researched for writing purposes, like methods of torture/execution and how to disappear and get a new identity).