boring life stuff update
May. 10th, 2021 12:17 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
flamingswordWe are back from West Texas and visiting Ghost's parents, which was restful. We had good conversations in the car, and figured out that where Fort Worth is concerned, I should do the driving. Unmarked left exits are dumb, y'all.
One of the things we talked about on the 5 hour drive west is that I am going to start dating Merlin again, and how in order to make sure that people are on the same page about this, we're going to have good old fashioned metamour discussions about what our expectations, boundaries, and limitations are for navigating a V relationship in an extensive and extended polycule. I am writing down questions to ask and my own invisible expectations today, and it is very frustrating. We all have vulnerability around this discussion, and I want that to happen with as little mess as possible, even if it is awkward and emotionally scary.
My mother in law feeds the local cat population that has been dumped on the edge of a preserve, as though housecats are good at surviving in the wild. She takes in strays, and they become indoor/outdoor cats. But she is only one person, and there's no infrastructure to take care of and rehome the cats out there. She gets the ones that they can trap fixed if they aren't already, but ... it is not an ideal situation. The local prairie dog community had to be moved to a different part of the preserve because they were too close to cats and cars. What other ecological damage is being done there, I don't even know, but cats are little murder machines, so the toll on the local lizard and bird populations has also got to be significant.
Speaking of which: if you have AppleTV Tiny World is freaking adorable. Paul Rudd might not be David Attenborough, but he does a great job of talking about the ecosystems of the smallest creatures. So much cuteness.
I am getting money together to get tested for vertical heterophoria, which may be a secondary cause of my headaches, motion sickness, anxiety, neck pain, and tendency to bump into walls even when I feel steady on my feet. The meds the cardiologist had me on did not clear up everything, so we get to do more medical testing. Wish me luck.
One of the things we talked about on the 5 hour drive west is that I am going to start dating Merlin again, and how in order to make sure that people are on the same page about this, we're going to have good old fashioned metamour discussions about what our expectations, boundaries, and limitations are for navigating a V relationship in an extensive and extended polycule. I am writing down questions to ask and my own invisible expectations today, and it is very frustrating. We all have vulnerability around this discussion, and I want that to happen with as little mess as possible, even if it is awkward and emotionally scary.
My mother in law feeds the local cat population that has been dumped on the edge of a preserve, as though housecats are good at surviving in the wild. She takes in strays, and they become indoor/outdoor cats. But she is only one person, and there's no infrastructure to take care of and rehome the cats out there. She gets the ones that they can trap fixed if they aren't already, but ... it is not an ideal situation. The local prairie dog community had to be moved to a different part of the preserve because they were too close to cats and cars. What other ecological damage is being done there, I don't even know, but cats are little murder machines, so the toll on the local lizard and bird populations has also got to be significant.
Speaking of which: if you have AppleTV Tiny World is freaking adorable. Paul Rudd might not be David Attenborough, but he does a great job of talking about the ecosystems of the smallest creatures. So much cuteness.
I am getting money together to get tested for vertical heterophoria, which may be a secondary cause of my headaches, motion sickness, anxiety, neck pain, and tendency to bump into walls even when I feel steady on my feet. The meds the cardiologist had me on did not clear up everything, so we get to do more medical testing. Wish me luck.
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Date: 2021-05-11 02:05 am (UTC)