Headache day 5, have a post
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flamingswordI am going to take yet another page out of ysabetwordsmith's book and start blogging answers to some of the prompts on how to encourage more meaningful conversation.
I am, however, having decision paralysis like a big dog. Anybody want to ask me one of these or should I just wait 'til my brain starts tracking?
Huzzah! We have a volunteer from the audience! Thank youbrightandravenous
5. What’s something you want to do in the next year that you’ve never done before?
I want to dress up like a girl voluntarily, as a way to start exploring gender. I am now comfortable enough in myself, now that i know why it has always been so uncomfortable to hold myself up to other people's standard for my supposed gender, that i can now separate playing with the behaviours from trying to hold myself to that unfair metric. I will be trying out classic lolita fashion. I have a whole pinterest board for this, just wait. There will be pictures and awesomeness.
8. What makes you happy?
Sunsets, perfumes, complicated flavors, not being in pain, making people smile, destroying things what need destroying, and being silly. I have a Good Things List somewhere with all the things that are always soothing and good on it. It is helpful as a self care guide for really bad days when self care can't be therapy and dealing with trauma.
14. What’s some of the best advice you’ve ever gotten?
Watch where people's eyes go. Clock how long they linger on other people and things to guage how much they want that thing or that person's attention. People are made to feel vulnerable and uncomfortable stating their desires, so sometimes if you want to know you can't just ask. Knowing what people want is part of the four part personality metric for behaviour prediction that I was taught by my friend Jenn. It has stood twenty years unchallenged as a great way to know what was going on.
ysabetwordsmith's book and start blogging answers to some of the prompts on how to encourage more meaningful conversation. I am, however, having decision paralysis like a big dog. Anybody want to ask me one of these or should I just wait 'til my brain starts tracking?
Huzzah! We have a volunteer from the audience! Thank you
brightandravenous5. What’s something you want to do in the next year that you’ve never done before?
I want to dress up like a girl voluntarily, as a way to start exploring gender. I am now comfortable enough in myself, now that i know why it has always been so uncomfortable to hold myself up to other people's standard for my supposed gender, that i can now separate playing with the behaviours from trying to hold myself to that unfair metric. I will be trying out classic lolita fashion. I have a whole pinterest board for this, just wait. There will be pictures and awesomeness.
8. What makes you happy?
Sunsets, perfumes, complicated flavors, not being in pain, making people smile, destroying things what need destroying, and being silly. I have a Good Things List somewhere with all the things that are always soothing and good on it. It is helpful as a self care guide for really bad days when self care can't be therapy and dealing with trauma.
14. What’s some of the best advice you’ve ever gotten?
Watch where people's eyes go. Clock how long they linger on other people and things to guage how much they want that thing or that person's attention. People are made to feel vulnerable and uncomfortable stating their desires, so sometimes if you want to know you can't just ask. Knowing what people want is part of the four part personality metric for behaviour prediction that I was taught by my friend Jenn. It has stood twenty years unchallenged as a great way to know what was going on.
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Date: 2019-03-10 10:38 am (UTC)I like your icon
Date: 2019-03-11 08:37 pm (UTC)I am so good at making stuff stressful for myself. 🙃
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