4 parenting styles and 4 things going on

Still thinking about the 4 parenting styles thing. So, the Gottman Institute researches human relationships, and one of the things they do is classify and measure different kinds of relational environments. The Four Parenting Styles are one of those helpful classification systems. Tag your childhood: I'm from an Emotion Dismissing home! Weirdly, Dad picked someone whose parenting style was just like my mom's so my half-siblings was raised in a similar environment. And that has had consequences. Emotion dismissing home side effects in my family: sister and I both feel responsible for other people's feelings - like their emotional comfort is our job; we both had to learn our feelings as adults; all of us had both chronic illnesses and a host of acute illnesses.

I wonder if the fact that basically all of the men my mother dated were emotion-disapproving had more to do with how she was raised and what she was used to or to toxic masculinity being endemic to our culture. The emotion-disapproving thing is basically the starter set for both authoritarianism and for machismo: showing emotion is a weakness, obey your parent/leader/authority, all about control and conformity.

A friend rented out a theater for her birthday and invited all her vaccinated friends to do one last "normal" thing before the lockdowns start again. We saw Malignant, the horror movie. The scary parts were really well done, but the family storyline was a bit schmaltzy and overdone. Still, the director is young and has time to learn better. I look forward to his next movie.

The hat is going really well, once I figured out the sizing and to ignore the pattern counts in the section with the bad math and substitute my own math. I'm done with the crown and body and 1/4 of the brim. Soon it will be time to switch to a longer wire on the circular needles. And then I'll be about done.

Tomorrow, if fortune favors me, I will be going to a friend's house and helping them with some yard work. It's probably best that we had to push it off from today, since it is raining out a bit and expected to storm around when I would have been driving home. But tomorrow it should only be 84 out and breezy, which sounds lovely. Not Autumn yet, sadly, but still nice.

Ghost has been going to therapy and evaluating his life, and he's figured out that he has trouble reticulating splines, that is, he has trouble shifting between tasks because his inertia to just keep doing what he's doing is too much to easily overcome if it is not part of a predetermined routine. This is pretty common in a certain subset of people, by which I mean: autistic people. I kind of armchair diagnosed him as being on the spectrum years ago, just based on behavior, but I don't think he read much about it until now. So I'm gonna send him this link, and see what he thinks.

I hope y'all are out there being safe and having decent days. For making it to the bottom of the post, here have an instrumental Discworld album!