figured it out

[flamingsword]

I use anger as a gauge of what's important to people, being in a relationship with someone so Zen that he never gets angry means that I can't tell what's important or which things he values take priority over other values.

I'm flying blind. Even if I know intellectually that I can deal with this sensibly by asking him when things become issues, even if I feel emotionally that we can handle anything with maturity and honesty because we both have that: THERE IS INFORMATION THAT I DON'T HAVE. And I won't know what it is until I need to ask.

My inner Ravenclaw chafes.

Comments

[franceschina.livejournal.com]

Looks like you might have to try a different gauge. Not sure what that would be with someone that laid-back, but look at it this way: at least you have two people to work on a solution instead of just one. :)

[elucreh.livejournal.com]

You can adapt! I have faith.