loving the word noncompliant

Today I've been doing a test sheet for the salt-dye technique to make a rainbow (for CMA!!), and thinking about my life's high incidence of gender & sexuality stereotype-noncompliant people. Do I actually have a higher index, or do I just notice more than other people do? Do I bring up subjects that make people feel like they're safely more normal than I am so that they can't be judged? Is there some quality that I have that eases the minds of people who dislike the role they're supposed to play?

I need outside perspective on this one. Please comment.