TX politics and Ghost

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I still need to talk to Ghost about making our relationship a long distance one if he is not moving with me. Because I have not broached that subject, yet, and I don’t know how to. He feels safe in Texas because he thinks that the politicians of Texas are just greedy, and are using tribalism and othering to control people into voting for them. He doesn’t think that any of them are true believers in the “people I don’t see as human may as well go to work camps and die there” belief set and other forms of christofascism. I … disagree.,

He doesn’t disrespect me for having fears, but he also doesn’t believe me when I say to believe people when they show you who they are. Dan Patrick wants to prosecute people for being trans, and to erase us from public life. Is Abbott the same way? I don’t know, but I do know that he got the trumpster fire involved in our (multiple-securities-fraud-charged) Attorney General Ken Paxton’s trial. He does not reign in his friends, he closes ranks and toes what he sees as the party line. And with his party pushing Project 2025 and it’s criminalization of all trans care, our access to bathrooms, our access to sports, trans kids access to even hearing about us on the internet, and in all ways pushing us as far toward the margins as possible - well, the party line is a garrote around our necks.

I have the option of going to live with my mother in NC for the about ten to twelve months that it will take to get more education and take the necessary tests for living and working in Washington. And yeah, Mom is bad about respecting my pronouns, but at least she’s not a reprehensible person in other, abuse-adjacent, ways. I can manage a year in non-ideal circumstances if I have to, if that’s what it will take to get me to being proximal to my best friends on a longer-term basis.

In other news, if anyone has had the “why don’t we make our relationship into a long distance relationship, a vacationship, or something less defined” conversation, please please please hit me up, I need so much advice right now.

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Okay, I’m going to try to set aside the giant squid of anger long enough to ask about the LDRs. How did you move from a shorter distance relationship to a longer one? What worked for getting across, “I still want to see you, and will miss you, and still love you” from a distance? If I just say the words, he might think I’m insincere or fooling myself. He has a pretty dim view of humanity, currently.