Not breaking other people should be the point, in a more ideal world, but we’re not there yet. There’s too much generational trauma, too much violence inherent in the system, for that to be the heart of our society any time in the next 100 to 150 years. We have at least five but more probably 7 generations of figuring out how to deal with our shit before we can make that shift to cultural and legal standards that don’t allow power-over models of relating to thrive. As long as aggression and dominance are the secret organizing principles of society, as long as the status game is built on competition based on inequalities, then we’re all playing catch-up on healing.
Even in a world that is healed, communication difficulties will still exist, bids for connection will be unmet and needs for repair will still exist. So healing will still have a fairly central place even in a better world. There are studies where mothers miss ~70% of the bids for connection from their infants, and I would imagine that number does not get completely better as children and parents age together. And if you don’t have the skillset to fix the problems that arise even in a healed world, it will devolve back into this one eventually. And that is painfully sad.
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Date: 2024-06-24 04:16 pm (UTC)Even in a world that is healed, communication difficulties will still exist, bids for connection will be unmet and needs for repair will still exist. So healing will still have a fairly central place even in a better world. There are studies where mothers miss ~70% of the bids for connection from their infants, and I would imagine that number does not get completely better as children and parents age together. And if you don’t have the skillset to fix the problems that arise even in a healed world, it will devolve back into this one eventually. And that is painfully sad.