Halp! How do you do self care?
Jan. 5th, 2024 10:31 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
flamingswordFirst off: I am safely home from the funeral.
Second: on this trip, when I was not worrying about other people I was doing desire mapping and trying to set intentions for the coming year. I had some realizations. Such as:
• I am in need of remedial self-care lessons! I have no idea how to get myself to do the things for more than a week.
• I was not the only person in Mom’s family whose passive SI/low self esteem/existential rage shows up in the form of being cavalier about risks to your life and health. I think it might be all of us.
• I did not get gendered correctly a single time by anyone in the Missouri side of the family, but I’m still going to try to get them into therapy, only I might be a little bitchy about it, bc I am not a fucking saint.
Like, I do have a list of things I want to do more often, but like … how do you remember to consistently do stuff that’s good for you when your brain doesn’t want to form habits? Should I just add voice memos to do self care to my existing alarms? That’s literally my only idea, here. If you have more, PLEASE SHARE! Omg I need so much help.
Second: on this trip, when I was not worrying about other people I was doing desire mapping and trying to set intentions for the coming year. I had some realizations. Such as:
• I am in need of remedial self-care lessons! I have no idea how to get myself to do the things for more than a week.
• I was not the only person in Mom’s family whose passive SI/low self esteem/existential rage shows up in the form of being cavalier about risks to your life and health. I think it might be all of us.
• I did not get gendered correctly a single time by anyone in the Missouri side of the family, but I’m still going to try to get them into therapy, only I might be a little bitchy about it, bc I am not a fucking saint.
Like, I do have a list of things I want to do more often, but like … how do you remember to consistently do stuff that’s good for you when your brain doesn’t want to form habits? Should I just add voice memos to do self care to my existing alarms? That’s literally my only idea, here. If you have more, PLEASE SHARE! Omg I need so much help.
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Date: 2024-01-08 05:38 am (UTC)I have changed some of my alarms to voice memos that tell me to do self care, and that should help. Plus, one of my friends said on Discord that he has a D20 and a list of twenty things that work for his self care/relaxation. That way he can roll the dice on what form self care will take today, which would help with my need for things to not always be predictably routine, while still making sure that I do something good for my health. I can do that, I’m pretty sure.
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Date: 2024-01-13 12:57 am (UTC)