Halp! How do you do self care?

[flamingsword]

First off: I am safely home from the funeral.

Second: on this trip, when I was not worrying about other people I was doing desire mapping and trying to set intentions for the coming year. I had some realizations. Such as:
• I am in need of remedial self-care lessons! I have no idea how to get myself to do the things for more than a week.
• I was not the only person in Mom’s family whose passive SI/low self esteem/existential rage shows up in the form of being cavalier about risks to your life and health. I think it might be all of us.
• I did not get gendered correctly a single time by anyone in the Missouri side of the family, but I’m still going to try to get them into therapy, only I might be a little bitchy about it, bc I am not a fucking saint.

Like, I do have a list of things I want to do more often, but like … how do you remember to consistently do stuff that’s good for you when your brain doesn’t want to form habits? Should I just add voice memos to do self care to my existing alarms? That’s literally my only idea, here. If you have more, PLEASE SHARE! Omg I need so much help.

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[tuzemi]

I am familiar with the feeling I think, but it's rare. The few times I remember it are when someone was physically close to me and (deliberately or not) ended up doing a gentle stroking motion on my arms or back. Kind of the opposite of goosebumps.

It doesn't happen much anymore though. Noodling on it, that might be because I have almost no body hair now compared to a few years ago.

*gentle pets*

[flamingsword]

I wish you less body hair but more glimmers, less rarity in your finding of joy.