That’s fair. I don’t know what to do about that other than recommend that
kids and folks who are required to pass as a binary gender use one of the
gray area, plausible deniability styles of dress and hair etc.. A lot of
folks do already do that, and I think that’s part of why we have such an
attribution problem causing the signal-to-noise ratio to be hopelessly
noisy. In a more perfect world they would not have to do hide like that to
stay safe, and that also aggravates me. Kids are being denied access to
their culture and community because ‘phobes are afraid of something
harmless that doesn’t materially affect them.
I do resent the world more than a little that your kid is made to hide
themselves away from their kin to remain safe. That’s not healthy for
anyone, and especially not for somebody who is told that their very being
is wrong. I wish I knew what to do about that, too.
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Date: 2023-07-01 07:04 pm (UTC)That’s fair. I don’t know what to do about that other than recommend that kids and folks who are required to pass as a binary gender use one of the gray area, plausible deniability styles of dress and hair etc.. A lot of folks do already do that, and I think that’s part of why we have such an attribution problem causing the signal-to-noise ratio to be hopelessly noisy. In a more perfect world they would not have to do hide like that to stay safe, and that also aggravates me. Kids are being denied access to their culture and community because ‘phobes are afraid of something harmless that doesn’t materially affect them.
I do resent the world more than a little that your kid is made to hide themselves away from their kin to remain safe. That’s not healthy for anyone, and especially not for somebody who is told that their very being is wrong. I wish I knew what to do about that, too.
fistbumps of solidarity for you and kiddo