What finally got me to stop chasing after other people for attention was when I realized that I don't want attention for the sake of attention. I want attention for the sake of validity. I want to feel seen, and be known, and if I can't do that for myself, then nobody else's input is going to fix it.
I taught myself to be internally validating before I knew the words for that, because I was in a bad bad place and it was either fix myself for myself or die. And it was super shitty. We should be teaching kids internal validation skills when we are teaching them how to brush their teeth and read.
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Date: 2019-12-07 07:34 pm (UTC)I taught myself to be internally validating before I knew the words for that, because I was in a bad bad place and it was either fix myself for myself or die. And it was super shitty. We should be teaching kids internal validation skills when we are teaching them how to brush their teeth and read.