convo that I am having with a friend, expanded.

In regards to holding other people responsible for them being who I thought they were, I guess I was kinda spoiled by my teens / early adulthood having been ( so wild )

I don't hold Ghost responsible for having been mistaken about who he was when we got together. I'm reasonably sure he misrepresented himself out of optimism instead of out of malice or a need to control other people. Most folks are like that: we want to believe that the things we have put some effort into are working out, like our being good to other people, our being sane or stable or whatever we're chasing after. It's not like I want for people to be more anxious about themselves or their lives just because it would be convenient for me, you know? I think maybe there's a Prisoner's Dilemma hidden in there somewhere. If I could choose to externalize all of my emotional uncertainty about my life onto other people, would I do it, even knowing that it would make their lives worse and would still lead to my life being overturned at random intervals by a chaotic and unfeeling universe? Lol, no.