Disappointing busybody is disappointing.
Apr. 21st, 2023 06:50 pmMeow.
So, I left the post about Ghost and I possibly getting a divorce on public so that people who are in communities with me but not friends could look and see why I’m maybe not responding as fast as normal, and what’s up with me. Someone who does not follow my posts and is not a friend commented a useless thing (because again, this person does not know me and doesn’t know what’s going on) that also had some really unfortunate implications in the language use, and got told not to say that stuff and then blocked, so she decided to comment anonymously to get around the block, so I had to turn off anonymous commenting also.
So the fallout from that:
• I am going through an emotional time, and am crying more this week than in the last two years put together. Maybe take that into consideration if you’re going to poke me or say less-than-sensitive stuff.
• Nobody much uses the anon commenting feature here except me posting anon by accident, but you have access to my DMs if you want to say a thing to me that nobody else knows that you said. I don’t know that I will be reinstating anonymous commenting. Certainly not any time soon. You may feel free to talk to me about it in … let’s tentatively say July, if you have strong opinions about it.
• If anyone anytime soon wants to rec me any poems or fics written by![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
ysabetwordsmith, maybe rec it to someone else who is not moithered to death with her right now. Also, tell her from me that when someone says that fatphobia is not welcome here, the proper response is “I am sorry, I did not know my comment could be taken that way, I’ll try to do better in the future”. Not, “that’s not what I said” - if you implied it, then you need to work on those implications. I have had to be on the receiving end of the “you implied a really unfortunate thing” conversation many a time. It’s embarrassing and it sucks, and you still have to apologize.
Sorry for the penny-ante street theater, folks.
So, I left the post about Ghost and I possibly getting a divorce on public so that people who are in communities with me but not friends could look and see why I’m maybe not responding as fast as normal, and what’s up with me. Someone who does not follow my posts and is not a friend commented a useless thing (because again, this person does not know me and doesn’t know what’s going on) that also had some really unfortunate implications in the language use, and got told not to say that stuff and then blocked, so she decided to comment anonymously to get around the block, so I had to turn off anonymous commenting also.
So the fallout from that:
• I am going through an emotional time, and am crying more this week than in the last two years put together. Maybe take that into consideration if you’re going to poke me or say less-than-sensitive stuff.
• Nobody much uses the anon commenting feature here except me posting anon by accident, but you have access to my DMs if you want to say a thing to me that nobody else knows that you said. I don’t know that I will be reinstating anonymous commenting. Certainly not any time soon. You may feel free to talk to me about it in … let’s tentatively say July, if you have strong opinions about it.
• If anyone anytime soon wants to rec me any poems or fics written by
ysabetwordsmith, maybe rec it to someone else who is not moithered to death with her right now. Also, tell her from me that when someone says that fatphobia is not welcome here, the proper response is “I am sorry, I did not know my comment could be taken that way, I’ll try to do better in the future”. Not, “that’s not what I said” - if you implied it, then you need to work on those implications. I have had to be on the receiving end of the “you implied a really unfortunate thing” conversation many a time. It’s embarrassing and it sucks, and you still have to apologize. Sorry for the penny-ante street theater, folks.