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Pavlov For Dummies
Jun. 22nd, 2010 12:45 pmStep 1: pay attention. Paying attention is step one, because it's always step one. If you want to reinforce positive behaviors then you have to know what behaviors there are and what constitutes a reward for the target person/s.
So: step 2a: recognize positive behaviors and reward individuals quickly.
Step 2b: clarify your signals to increase your signal-to-noise ratio. Do not send mixed messages. Be consistent enough to avoid confusion. Messages of criticism spoken during a positive review should be phrased carefully to state belief in that person's creative process. If you do something that irritates that person, desist until the next time you meet them.
Step 3 is repeating steps one and two until the positive behavior has been reinforced and then intermittently rewarding the person for it or alternating the reward with different, less-desired modalities to teach that person a wider range of positive associations.
( Common and uncommon social rewards and their uses: )
Please leave feedback if I've missed anything!
Disclaimer: this is not the 5 love languages or any kind of self-help. This is not a recommendation that you take other people on as "projects". This is a helpful guide to motivating people to doing more of the good things that they do some of anyway. If you "push", you can go too far; it can cause personality changes and that may or may not be a good thing. While other people are ultimately responsible for their actions, you will still feel like a shit for having a role in turning your friend into a different person.
So: step 2a: recognize positive behaviors and reward individuals quickly.
Step 2b: clarify your signals to increase your signal-to-noise ratio. Do not send mixed messages. Be consistent enough to avoid confusion. Messages of criticism spoken during a positive review should be phrased carefully to state belief in that person's creative process. If you do something that irritates that person, desist until the next time you meet them.
Step 3 is repeating steps one and two until the positive behavior has been reinforced and then intermittently rewarding the person for it or alternating the reward with different, less-desired modalities to teach that person a wider range of positive associations.
( Common and uncommon social rewards and their uses: )
Please leave feedback if I've missed anything!
Disclaimer: this is not the 5 love languages or any kind of self-help. This is not a recommendation that you take other people on as "projects". This is a helpful guide to motivating people to doing more of the good things that they do some of anyway. If you "push", you can go too far; it can cause personality changes and that may or may not be a good thing. While other people are ultimately responsible for their actions, you will still feel like a shit for having a role in turning your friend into a different person.