flamingsword | Johari and Nohari windows. (Reply)

So to continue the blind spot discussion from the last few posts, I haven’t gotten much buy-in on the Nohari window exercise yet, but if you’ve known me for a while, feel free to take a minute to pick 5 words to describe me in this quiz about my positive traits or, more importantly, this quiz of my negative traits .

So far the ones in my blind spot are:

brave - am I brave? I’m mostly too pissed off to be afraid, and fearless is not the same thing as brave. So idk.

complex - maybe? I think I’m simple but strange. But it could be true.

energetic - like, my brain is energetic, but my body is a pile of tired.

independent - further down it has insecure on the negative traits list. How can I be independent and insecure at the same time?

reflective - sometimes

responsive - again, sometimes

wise - about some things? But I guess it’s not wrong so much as odd to think of.

inflexible - I can see it. I do tend to push for my understanding of things to be what we proceed on when nobody else steps up to lead.

insecure - ??? Not sure. Maybe about some stuff that depends on other people or their perceptions.

lethargic - yyyup. My body is failsome to the point that I didn’t even consider the word since my personality is to try to keep up with responsibilities.

cynical - sadly, I can kinda see it. But I don’t know how to be realistic without that . :/

distant - I don’t want to be distant emotionally, but when I try to connect it doesn’t seem to to do much.

imperceptive - see, I knew I was inattentive, but maybe I am not even noticing things that are too outside my experience.

chaotic - oh. Yeah, kinda. I think I’m boring and predictable but I guess it looks chaotic from the outside.

Also, I thought I was getting better at not immediately trying to fix other peoples problems instead of extending empathy and listening first, but it has been pointed out that I am still doing the thing, and it still feels controlling and uncomfortable.

So this is the stuff I need to print out and work on.