I was asked how I like to spoil people

so: I like to feed my people, and touch my people, and take care of (some of) their physical and mental needs. Their emotional needs I am not great with yet, but maybe someday.

My offers to spoil people are usually things like: buying or making food (of either their favorite type or a type that is something they haven’t had before if they need stimulation), giving massages/head scratches/foot rubs, scrubbing people down in the tub/shower or washing their hair, making them smellgoods, and petting them/rubbing them with soft things/brushing their hair. I like to snuggle my people and lay over them when they’re anxious, and take naps with them. Whatever I think will work for them and for me.

I also sometimes like to craft useful or beautiful things for people, collate lists of paintings or make mixtapes or link them to things in their special interests, or, on the rare occasion I find such: link them to things adjacent to the intersection of our interests that might stimulate their attention and give us stuff to talk about. I love those conversations, where we both get to be really enthusiastic and engaged.

I don’t really know if I do this stuff on a scale? I have been trying to think of stuff and the only caveat or metric that I’ve got is that I need to be pretty close to folks before I will bring up the co-bathing thing, but mostly that is bc I expect _them_ to have problems with it. Body shame, etc. are really common. 😢