sexual orientation grid

[flamingsword]

There's a discussion I'd like to be part of, and to provide meaningful input to others they will want to see this:



I've never considered my sexuality in terms of a "goal" before, and it's a little uncomfortable to think of it in those terms now. I'm with the partners that fit my sexual and emotional needs while fitting into my life. That (to me) has nothing to do with their gender. Boys tend toward direct, and that's a lot easier for me. I must admit that most women continue to baffle me with their subtlety and reliance on emotional tools that I can not use, but that's largely cultural. Black women, nerd women, and riot grrls do not apply those standards to themselves, and I get on much better with them romantically.

Also I am, by inclination, attracted to men ~2x as often as to women. The fact that women are underrepresented in my dating portfolio to this degree has more to do with the fact that the kind of women I like are generally above my pay grade.

Comments

[flamingsword.livejournal.com]

The radar does not reach that far! I am honest with myself enough to state that a long-distance relationship would drive me bugfuck crazy.

Otherwise I would have you, elucreh, deitrich, imlad, bouncyone and possibly a few others in a nice little harem. I don't know how other people do the long-distance thing. I would miss your face too much, and internet hugs are not enough. :(

[kadairk.livejournal.com]

Long distance is challenging. The level of the relationship we have with Savanni is sustainable long distance, but quite frankly, I'd like more. More isn't going to happen with the distance, so I'll keep the status quo for the time.

[flamingsword.livejournal.com]

What you guys have would make me feel needy and clingy, and I would hate that. There's some sort of minimum weekly expectation I have for time spent together, and it may not be much but it is very definite. Anybody I don't see at least every week I either pine for and feel deprived or the physical part of the attraction dies away.

I think I am very smell-dependent and tactile with my lovers. I don't think that's fixable.

[jslorentz.livejournal.com]

I find that interesting, since you recently said you have no trouble being sexual with your friends without it drastically changing the friendship. Am I misquoting you, or could you elaborate on the "physical part" dying away?

[terriblelynne.livejournal.com]

I hear you. Me, I just can't seem to put down this pesky torch...