I feel like they're not getting the whole picture for some reason or other. I am far more than my description.

And I don't think of choosing traits that I do or don't accent is problematic, it's a fundamental part of connecting with others -- nobody is exactly like me, so there's no value in trying to share things they won't understand. It's selection and interaction, not diminution. I'm also no longer enamored with the viewpoint that someone should want to know me whole; I don't know that's possible, so knowing what to keep private and what to share was a hard lesson, but also an important one. This is key to facilitating communication in others.