I need some help

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I need to know, honestly and anonymously, what my real assets and liabilities are. What kind of person am I? I've got the IP logging function turned off and you can post anonymously, but I need to get some outside perspectives on this one, if you have a few minutes.

Thanks, guys.

Comments

[(Anonymous)]

On the side of assets:

You are quite intelligent, well-read, and eloquent when you want to be. It's pretty intimidating trying to communicate with you sometimes, but it is unusual for someone to put so much intellect behind their words.

You seem to be tenaciously loyal to your friends, and you usually have people's well-being at the forefront of everything you do. You are generous with your concern, and you act on that concern.

You give freely those things which bring you happiness. Not always what brings others happiness, but the effort is rare and noteworthy.


Now, for the not-so glamorous points:

Not everything is intended to make sense to you, your education, or even common sense. You don't have much tolerance for random variables or differing opinions. The initial impression is one of someone who was frequently told, "No, you're wrong. Shut up," while growing up.

As someone mentioned before, your mother-hen instinct gets pretty toxic sometimes. People do not like to be treated as if they were either children or idiots, and quite often your ministrations carry the appearance of sanctimoniousness (yes, I know that you don't mean it that way: appearances often carry more weight than intent, however. We are slaves to our sensory stimulus.)

Your enthusiasm sometimes lacks a sense of tact. When you tell someone what they are going to do (i.e., "You're going to come over here, and we'll..."), you do not give them the option of having other plans/feeling unwell/making a comprimise. For the most part, I consider this an extension of the mother-hen attitude. I would suggest trying to become more aware of how your actions and words are perceived by others, as that would solve most of your "liabilities," as you put it.


Keep in mind that I haven't known you for very long, so a lot of this is initial impression...

right on

[(Anonymous)]

I've known you for a VERY long time. Even though this person says he/she hasn't known you for long. I could not have explained/described you better. That was right on. you are very generous in all that you do and always have others well being in mind. you do put so much thought behind you words...sometime to much to the point that it can defenetly be intimidating to talk with you. and you do (not meaning to) talk to other people as if they were children or idiots. oddly enough after much observation i believe that "mother-hen" ness to be hereditary ;0
but you are such a beautiful person and you do come across that way, but you can be way to serious sometimes.

[(Anonymous)]

While I agree with the sentiment that you are intelligent, erudite, and quite capable of an eloquent turn of phrase, I find this makes communicating with you stimulating.

Your self-described need for "Alpha correctness" & your loyalty to your friends probably help source the Mother Knows Best attitude that has been ascribed to you. While I have experienced none of the aforementioned behaviours except the loyalty, I can understand how they could prove bothersome. Still, I withhold judgment, lacking direct evidence and speaking only in hypotheticals.

Your enthusiasm sometimes lacks a sense of tact. When you tell someone what they are going to do (i.e., "You're going to come over here, and we'll..."), you do not give them the option of having other plans/feeling unwell/making a comprimise.
I have never failed to find this enthusiasm attractive/diverting; this may well be because I have such whims myself, and expect people to assert themselves if they truly have more pressing concerns on their time. Frankly, excessive concern in this area seems to lead easily into Harrison Bergeron territory; social pressure is a real force, but you are not the unique source of such.

You cultivate an image of yourself that seems more relaxed then you may actually be. You celebrate your sexuality, but are only beginning to work on heightening your own enjoyment of it. You have made commitments that I have not, and while I respect that, I wonder if they have limited you as well- or if you fear that they have. The past need not be a gull hanging 'round our neck for us to broaden by it.